Friday, January 11, 2008

Are You Too Shy To Meet Your Online Love?

There’s nothing to be scared of because online romances often culminate into lifelong partnerships these days. However, when taking the plunge keep these tips in mind and you won’t go wrong!

Meet when YOU are ready and if you feel inclined enough! You are never obliged to meet anyone no matter how comfortable you get over the net. However, don’t unnecessarily lead somebody on. Why bother with the effort if you just want to tease?

Location-wise: Be wise when it comes to the choice of venue. Don’t allow your date to pick you up at home. What if he turns out to be a stalker? Any public space like a restaurant or a café is a sound option. Don’t forget to inform a close friend about your rendezvous plans and leave your date's name and telephone number with that person.

While traveling a longer distance: If the object of your affection is overseas or from another state and you are flying in or driving from another area, arrange for your own car and a hotel room. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information.

Use your instinct: Read the fine print. Do you feel pressurized? Do you sense undue anger or frustration? Watch out for any alarming aberrations.

Get yourself out of a jam: If you are any way afraid of your date, use your judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior. Your safety is much more important than one person's opinion of you.

The Underlying Concepts:

You could be smart or sloppy. You could ooze sensuality and wit; you could be poetic and sensitive. You could be the proverbial introvert. You could be intelligent. You could be anything and everything under the sun.

You could be severely eligible. And yet you maybe single.

Maybe you haven’t met someone who mentally, intellectually, physically and emotionally (is that to much to ask for?) stimulates you in ages. Maybe you live in a metro. Maybe time is a constraint and the opportunities to socialize and ‘meet’ potential romantic interests are on the wane. And you might be smothered with lots of doubts like –‘Is there something wrong with me? Am I boring? What can I do to improve my romantic prospects? Arranged marriage…yikes!’

Well, banish those thoughts. You share a common predicament with millions across the globe. So what can you do to find a touch of chemistry in this crazy world of today? If conventional methods aren’t helping, then maybe you could resort to more innovative ones; Like the internet, for instance.

Online dating, a by-product of the net craze isn’t just new age madness. It’s a concept that was born due to changing circumstances and fascinating technology. Online dating has created possibilities for this generation that our parents never dreamt of.

While lots of dubious ‘characters’ are lurking about on the web; you'll also find them hanging around at nightclubs, sipping coffee at your regular café, in the local trains and in your office.

Dating is never a risk-free activity, anyways and the same goes for online dating.

If approached the right way, the medium of the internet could actually lead you to whom you are looking for. We bring you some tips that could make your search more fruitful and more fun!

Wednesday, January 2, 2008

How To Avoid Money Tiffs?

Considering that love exists and you do want togetherness with this guy, it makes sense to hold the money devil by its horns and tame it so that it doesn’t come between the two of you. Get a grip right now on the situation by using a bit of humility, common senses, patience and tact. Here’s how…

• Understand that you have chosen to live with and love this guy. Whatever be his financial situation, he is desirable to you and should remain so. After all, it does not take financial positions and situations to take a turn.

• Make your parents understand this as well. Don’t allow them to bring up the money talk and the disparity in your incomes in front of him. This will instill inferiority complex in your man and might make him feel that he is being subjugated to humility. Avoid such discussions with friends also. Besides, it is your personal arena, do not make your income disparity open to public analysis.

• Do not over insist on footing the bill at a restaurant or while on a shopping expedition with your man. If he wishes to pay, let him. And never ever pass comments such as, “Its ok honey let me pay. Anyway I earn much more so I can afford this.” By doing this, you will be trampling all over his self-respect.

• Do not keep drumming in the fact in that you earn more and you are doing better.

• Do not keep discussing his career moves with him with an air of authority just because you are financially more sound. This will make him feel that you are in the driving seat and he is being babied. Most men will detest the feeling.

• Do not make major buying decisions or financial decisions like a picking up a fridge or a home theater etc without his knowledge or his consultation.

• Avoid giving him an overtly expensive gift without his knowledge. He might take this an offense and start comparing his purchasing capacity with yours.

• If you are living in or are married, then it makes sense to have a joint account. Deposit equal amounts in this account and use this money for all joint expenditures. This will take care of most of the strife.

Remember that money can’t buy you love. Also remember that money has the power to break the strongest of bonds. Ensure that you don’t fall pray to its power-play. Relish togetherness!