Guess what’s the secret to a happy marriage? Find a smart woman at least five years younger who has not been hitched before, reveals a new study.
Researchers at Bath University have found that couples with the best chance of a happy marriage are those in which a woman with a superior education marries a man who is five or more years older than herself.
In their study, the researchers analysed interviews with 1,534 Swiss couples who were either married or in a very serious relationship. Five years later they followed up 1,074 of the couples to see which had separated.
From this analysis, the researchers were able to tease out the factors that create a dream marriage - and those that doom a romance to failure.
With age, they found that if the wife is five or more years older than her husband, they are more than three times as likely to divorce than if they were the same age. Couples in which the husband is the elder by at least five years are least likely to part.
A good education boosts a couple’s chances of staying together, and the future is particularly bright if the wife has the most studying under her belt. Analysis of the data also showed the most stable couples were those who have never divorced. However couples in which one member has been through a break-up in the past are less stable than those in which both members have a history of divorce.
According to Lead researcher Dr Emmanuel Fragniere, “It appears men and women choose their mates on the basis of love, physical attraction, similarity of taste, beliefs and attitudes, and shared values.”
"However, the longevity of marriages also depends on objective factors. Matching individuals according to a small number of objective criteria such as age, education and cultural origin may help reduce divorce."
These findings have been published in the “European Journal of Operational Research”.
Love is on everyone's mind. It's an amazing feeling to be in love even though it has its ups and downs. Girls like being wooed and sought after. Generally, it's the males that do the chasing. Making a girl fall in love does not come naturally to all men but one can always pick up the tricks of the trade.
Here are seven tips that will make a girl fall in love with you.
Tip 1: Send the girl you are eying an unsigned letter, a bunch of flowers or a little gift. A little mystery will cause her to wonder who the sender maybe. Don't overdo it as she may just get fed up.
Tip 2: A girl loves being treated with dignity and respect. She likes being complimented every now and then. Girls generally get attracted to decent boys.
Tip 3: Be confident and genuine in your approach, what ever is on the inside of you will show on the outside. This will attract the girl you are making advances at.
Tip 4: Girls take to guys who are fun loving and sporty. Don't have a sour lime, dull boring attitude or look on your face. That will only shoo her away.
Tip 5: Be obliging at all times and offer to go out of your way to do something for the girl you love. She is watching you very carefully, the way you speak, the way you react and your dependability.
Tip 6: If you are the romantic type ask her out to dinner in a quiet, romantic setting. Find out what her interests are and get involved in them that will make her feel really special.
Tip 7: Be protective of her, no I don't mean dominate her or anything like that. But in your own subtle way let her know that you are looking out for her, this will gain her trust and not only that her love as well.
So, all the very best as you set out to charm the girl of your dreams. Love is in the air!
Have you ever noticed that there are some men who get much scared of the big 'C' word: commitment? Such fellows can be found everywhere, for example, in our society, in our neighborhood, at our work place etc. So the big question is why are they so scared of commitment?
For a gender that enjoys new challenges and adventures and laughs in the face of danger, you'd think something simple like the word 'marriage' wouldn't scare them off. But alas it's not that case. Men often get very scared by the idea of committing more to their partner. Often it's fatal to the relationship.
Some men get so scared off that they have to leave their partners. And this happens again and again throughout their dating life. Though, don't worry, this isn't the majority of men. The majority of men need simple coaxing and helping through the commitment stage. You can help your man by not putting added pressure on him. Let him know that you do want more commitment, but if he isn't willing to give it then you understand. You can wait and you still love him.
To get a person to change you first have to accept them as they are. If people feel accepted then they are more likely to put positive changes into action in their lives.
