Tuesday, April 17, 2018

6 Major Reasons Why Women Have Extramarital Affairs


Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.” - Martin Luther

Unfortunately, the situation in the Indian household is quite the contrary. The husband dreads coming back home, and the wife is more than glad to see him leave.

Let us talk about the major reasons why women have extramarital affairs.

6 Major Reasons Why Women Have Extramarital Affairs:

Gone are the days when women used to hide under a five inch veil and obediently play the various roles of a chaste wife, a devout daughter in law and a libido less mother.

This is the 21st century and women are successfully playing the new role called infidels. But this is not what is infuriating the patriarchy - the audacity of an ‘Indian’ woman to commit an extramarital affair. What is more shocking to the patriarchy is the infiltrated morality of today’s Indian women who no longer consider an extramarital affair as taboo and are openly articulating their emotional and sexual needs.

Reason 1 @ Desire

Desire is the mother of all sins. It is not a new fact that in all marriages, sooner or later, the charm of the youthful days fades. Women desire to rekindle something new and passionate in their relationship.

Reason 2 @ Faulty Partner

Not everyone is blessed with a beautiful and loving partner. Halfway in their marriage, women realize that they are not being given the love, respect and companionship they deserve in a marriage. So, they simply start looking for it elsewhere.

However, it is not necessary for the relationship to be at fault in order to justify the person’s infidelity. Sometimes, it’s just the person’s personality type.

Reason 3 @ Suppressed Sexuality


If a man couldn’t suppress his sexual passions or was dissatisfied with his wife, he could easily spend a night in a brothel. No one asked him any questions because he was the head and the caretaker of the family.


But a woman’s sexual needs have always been suppressed. She was and still is taught to preserve her chastity and virginity. And women did so because they were uneducated and were not capable of standing up on their feet.

But times have changed. As the woman of today rises, she is willing to take a look at her own needs and, if necessary, honor them, be it inside or outside the house.

And sexual gratification rules a woman’s needs. Perhaps that is the reason why they have no qualms in accepting an extramarital relation for satiating the urge of physical intimacy.

Reason 4 @ The Modern Attitude Towards Marriage

There is a fundamental flaw in the very nature of married Indian couples. Everyone hungers for quick satiation. Everyone wishes to speak but no one is willing to listen. Intolerance is on the rise and hypocrisy is ruling marriages. People are more into flaunting their love lives on social media than having a heart to heart conversation.

Moreover, like with objects, couples are getting bored with their partners too. If one relationship doesn’t work, they plan and plot to develop another. The values of commitment, sacrifice, love, companionship, forgiveness and moreover the attitude of ‘fixing a broken thing’ have been lost. So instead of making a marriage work, women as well as men look for a new dalliance.

Reason 5 @ The Bane Called The Internet

The Internet has always been a boon and a bane. A lot of affairs owe their existence to electronic communications. The sheer ease and secrecy of mobile communication is an enabling factor.

To aid women, extramarital affair websites are making it easier to have clandestine online affairs.

Reason 6 @ The Working Lady

Chances of extramarital affairs increase when both the partners are working. Women don’t find that time to nurture their marital relationship with their husbands at home.

Rather, the same bonding happens with their colleague at the workplace. Both men and women work the same number of hours and often travel together for business trips. As a result, there are more instances of extramarital affairs in the corporate sector.

Whatever might be the reason, extramarital affairs are never healthy for a relationship. At times, they leave irreparable scars on both the offenders and their partners.

Therefore, as adults, it is the duty of every married woman to take conscious and informed decisions, especially in the Indian society, where a marriage is not just a union of two individuals, but two families.

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