4 Common Signs of Infidelity in Wives

You married her for better or for worse but you probably didn't imagine that ‘worse’ could mean infidelity. Women cheat almost as much as men do. Asking your wife outright if she is having an affair might be the best way to find out for sure but only, if she answers truthfully. In the meantime, changes in her behavior and appearance may indicate that she is being unfaithful.

4 Most Common Signs of Infidelity in Wives: 

Sign 1: She Withdraws Emotionally

Women usually cheat for emotional reasons. This is different from why many men cheat. A woman who is having an affair may pull back from her husband emotionally. She may no longer want to talk about her day, share her feelings or discuss her problems with you. If you try to ask her what is wrong, she may reply with a vague answer or simply say ‘nothing’. At first, some husbands may enjoy their less-talkative wives, but it could be a sign of infidelity. 

Sign 2: She Improves Her Appearance

Let us face it. As time goes by, a woman might let herself go a bit between the demands of work and child rearing. But a woman who is having an affair may suddenly start to pay attention to her appearance again. If your wife usually heads to the gym in her old sweats and a ponytail but suddenly starts wearing snazzy, matching athletic clothes and doing her hair before she works out, take notice. She could be trying to impress a guy at the gym or somewhere else. 

Sign 3: She Pulls Away Physically

Suddenly, your wife isn’t there as much as she used to be. She goes out for girl's night more often, stays late at work and makes plans to be away from home on the weekends. She may make excuses for not spending as much time with you and may even say that she needs ‘space’. She also makes excuses for not being intimate with you. All of these are red flags for infidelity. 

Sign 4: She Becomes Secretive

She used to leave her laptop open but now it’s always closed, and she has changed her email password, too. So has the password on her phone, and if a text comes in, she makes sure you don’t see it. She takes calls in the other room and is vague when you ask her who called, or even who she was with last night. You catch her lying about which friend she was with or why she had to work late. Secrets and lies are a sign that your wife could be cheating on you, especially if she has never been secretive in the past.

Why Do Married Women Cheat?

While married women have affairs in much lower numbers than men, make no mistake: married women do have extramarital relationships. And quite often, the reasons that some married women give when explaining their decision to cheat on their spouses and partners are very similar to the reasons that men give.

Statistics on affairs involving married people are not generally thought of as accurate, given the very nature of the subject and the reluctance of many people to give truthful information, even anonymously. But they do provide some level of reliable insight into the potential total of married individuals who cheat on their spouses.

According to the most recent statistics, 14 percent of married women have at least one affair during their marriage (as compared to approximately 22 percent of men). In addition, the same statistics show that younger people are more likely to have an affair than older married individuals and younger women are as likely to have an extramarital affair.

Just as their numbers are very similar to those of men, so are the reasons married women have affairs. Below are a few of the most common reasons why married women have affairs and cheat on their spouse:

@1# Level of Desire

While men and women are both having sex late into their lives, the numbers of men and the level of desire of men overall declines sharply when compared to that of women. This means there are probably a lot of sexually unfulfilled women out there. But rather than turn off their sexual desires to meet the demand of their husbands’ many women are opting for discreet sexual affairs to fulfill their needs. Rather than pressure their husbands, who are often indifferent to their requests, the women have turned to discreet adult dating sites to meet partners to help them meet the needs their husbands or partners can’t or won’t attempt to meet.

@2# Need to Feel Wanted

For many women, the longer their marriage has gone on, the less attractive they feel. Their husbands, who may have showered them with compliments and affection when they first married, may now treat them indifferently or, worse, criticize their appearance (weight, overall looks, etc.).

Many women begin to accept this assessment as fact and begin to believe, indeed, that they are unattractive and undesirable. But many others have discovered adult dating websites and with it, scores of men who find them attractive and sexually desirable. They have gone on to have discreet affairs with partners who remind them of how beautiful and sexually exciting they are, giving them a ‘second life’ as a sensual human being.

@3# Variety

Variety is the spice of life, it’s been said, and that variety includes sexual variety as well. When it comes to sex, women are no different from men in that they sometimes crave a bit of a change in their routine.

If their spouse or partner can give them that spice, that is great. But quite often, their partner is unwilling or unable to give them the type of variety they seek. It may be a situation where the sex has become routine and predictable, a situation where their partner is only concerned with their own needs and the woman is left unsatisfied. In these situations, a discreet affair may be the outlet the woman needs to find someone who is willing to participate in new adventures or who may even bring something new to her sex life.

@4# Boredom

It may seem like mundane reason to have an affair. After all, we all get bored with life sometime but the day-in, day-out routine of life is a major reason why some married women cheat on their husband or partner. The ritual of going to the office (if they work outside of the home), taking care of kids, paying bills, cooking dinner, washing dishes, cleaning the house, shopping, etc. can put anyone in a rut and a married woman is no different.

An affair can give a twist to that routine and take them, even momentarily, away from the boredom of everyday life. The discreet conversations, the flirty text messages, planning the rendezvous, finally getting together for a night or afternoon of passion, all of it can give her a renewed sense of vigor and help her make it through another week of the everyday routine.

@5# Incompatibility with Significant Other

Sometimes, the reason women have an affair is simple unhappiness with their marriage or spouse. It may not be a specific, legitimate reason, but simply these two people have grown apart, at least sexually. They may continue to live together for financial reasons, or may still actually like each other but just not in that way.

In those situations, an affair may be a way to fill in the missing piece of the puzzle, to enjoy that one aspect that is missing from their dominant relationship. Sometimes, the affair is discreet because while the partner accepts the idea that their wife or girlfriend still desires a sexual relationship, they would rather not know about it. Other times, it’s agreed that they can both see other people as a way to fulfill their desires. Every other aspect of their lives may function perfectly, but an affair with someone else is necessary.

@6# Just because They Can Do It

In less open times, women were taught not be sexual creatures. Sex for women was something that was done only as a means to procreate. Modern women have learned that expressing a healthy interest in sex doesn’t mean the end of the world or a scarlet letter. And because of this fact, married women are discovering the enjoyment of a discreet affair. And equally as significant, they are discovering that having an affair doesn’t have to mean displeasure with their marriage, their significant other or their life. Rather, an affair, they are finding, can enhance their life and give it a whole new dimension. In short, they do it because they can.

21 Cheating Signs of Husbands: Must Know For Women

With infidelity reaching epidemic proportions, every woman should learn how to recognize the telltale signs of infidelity. The future of her relationship could depend on her ability to spot the telltale signs in time.

21 Cheating Signs of Husbands: Must Know For Women

Every woman must be aware of these cheating signs which their respective husbands leave unknowingly.

Sign 1: Physical Appearance

A man having an affair or even thinking about having an affair will want to make himself look more attractive. He will begin to enhance his appearance in some way. Be alert for changes in his wardrobe, his grooming, his body, and his personal hygiene. These are usually the most visible signs of infidelity. If he embarks on a drastic self-induced makeover, it’s probably not for you. More than likely he’s trying to attract or impress someone else.

Sign 2: How He Relates To You

The way your husband relates to you can provide many telltale signs. His involvement with another woman will cause him to treat you differently, even on a subconscious level. This is one of those areas where a wife can pick up signs of infidelity that a private investigator might otherwise overlook.

Sign 3: Conversational Clues

What your husband chooses or refuses to talk about can alert you to his involvement in an extramarital affair. He may mention new people, places and things, while the people, places and things he normally talks about are no longer a part of his conversation. Even his tone of voice can be an important telltale sign.

Sign 4: Work Habits

Work is commonly used as an excuse to account for large blocks of time away from home. Men often use their jobs as a cover for their extramarital affairs. Your husband’s work habits will undoubtedly change as his affair unfolds. Be on the lookout work-related telltale signs.

Sign 5: Everyday Behavior

We are all creatures of habit. We all have a routine that we usually follow each day. A man who is cheating will display changes of some kind in his normal patterns of behavior. Pay close attention to any deviations in your husband’s daily routine. These deviations are telltale signs.

Sign 6: Financial Affairs

Affairs cost money. If your husband has a lover, he will want to wine her, dine her, entertain her and buy her occasional gifts. No matter how carefully he tries to cover his tracks, sooner or later this will be reflected in the family finances. Stay alert for financial signs of infidelity.

Sign 7: Travel Schedules

Your husband may not always be traveling for legitimate reasons. Even if he is, he may decide to combine business with a little pleasure. Travel affords a cheating unfaithful husband a unique opportunity to cheat away from prying eyes.

Sign 8: Personality Changes

Be alert for changes in your husband’s attitude, personality or behavior. Whether they are drastic or subtle, these changes are often an indication of infidelity.

Sign 9: Absences

Affairs generally require a considerable amount of time. Since there are only 24 hours in a day, your husband’s absences will become increasingly more frequent as he tries to steal time from other activities so he can be with his lover.

Sign 10: Telephone Clues

Illicit affairs depend on repeated contact; many of which take place by phone. These telltale signs of infidelity are relatively easy to find. Many men take the risk of calling their lovers from home or having their lovers call them at home. Many wives discover their husband’s infidelity either directly or indirectly by the telephone.

Sign 11: Car Clues

Your husband’s or the family car can be a rich source of telltale signs. The glove compartment, car seats (underneath and between), the tire well, the underside of the visor, the ashtray, the side pockets or compartments, under the floor mats and other nooks and crannies can reveal a wealth of information.

Sign 12: Sex Life

Be alert for any type of changes in the frequency or the quality of your sex life together. Most important of all: If you suspect your husband of having an affair, take steps to protect yourself. Do not put yourself at risk for HIV/AIDS, herpes or other sexually transmitted diseases.

Sign 13: Eating Habits

This is an area that wives usually overlook when checking for telltale signs. But your husband’s eating habits can be influenced or affected by his lover. Without even realizing it, he may develop a preference for the type of food she eats, the way she likes her food prepared or the kind of restaurants in which she likes to eat. These are the types of telltale signs it would never occur to him to conceal.

Sign 14: Smells And Tastes

Each person has his or her own unique smell or taste. You may be oblivious to it until it becomes replaced with something else. Pay close attention if your husband smells or tastes different, or if something in your home or car just doesn’t smell right. It may warrant closer investigation.

Sign 15: Invasion of Your Home

It's not uncommon for a man who is cheating to invite his lover to his home. When this happens, it’s not unheard of for lovers to leave personal items behind; sometimes deliberately, for an unsuspecting wife to find. You will usually find evidence in your bedroom or bathroom if another woman has been in your home while you were away. But telltale signs of infidelity may turn up in other areas of your home, as well.

Sign 16: Gifts

Be especially vigilant around the times of the year when gifts are usually exchanged. During the holidays and various other times throughout the year, you may find gifts or cards hidden around your home or in the car. Receipts or credit card bills for gifts may turn up shortly before or after Christmas and Valentine’s Day.

Sign 17: Computer Use

It’s common these days for a cheating husband to use e-mail to communicate with his lover. Some of the telltale signs in this category may also be an indication of his involvement in an online or cyber affair. Don’t take this lightly. These affairs can be as harmful to your marriage as the real thing. Though they may not involve sexual contact, the emotional attachment can be extremely strong and can quickly progress from cyberspace to physical reality.

Sign 18: Cell Phones

Today’s technological advances make it easier for a husband to cheat on his wife. But it’s also easier for a husband to get caught while trying to make contact or stay in touch with his lover. Keep checking his cell phones from time to time.

Sign 19: Physical Evidence

Many times there’s physical evidence just waiting to be found. Check your husband’s wallet, his pants or jacket pockets, his desk or dresser drawers, the wastepaper basket, his closet shelves, the floor in the back of his closet, the garage, his study, filing cabinets, his workshop, his toolbox or any place else you can think of. Keep your eyes open. You will be surprised at the kinds of physical evidence of infidelity you can find.

Sign 20: His Behavior Around Other Women

Studies show that a man is most likely to have an affair with someone he already knows. She could be a woman he comes in contact with on a regular basis, a neighbor, a coworker, a family friend or business associate. If you are observant, you may be able to determine the identity of your husband’s lover by the way he behaves in her presence, or by how she behaves around him.

Sign 21: Accidental Disclosures

Sometimes you get lucky and find out what your husband has been up to by accident, or through some strange quirk of fate. An accidental slip-up on his part or on the part of someone else can clue you in to what has been happening behind your back.

In this age of rampant infidelity, no woman, married or single, can risk missing or misinterpreting the telltale signs of an affair. The survival of her relationship may one day depend on her ability to recognize the warning signs in time.

30 Body Language Signs Which Show Cheating

There are some obvious signs of cheating and infidelity. These signs of infidelity can be sensed through knowing the top body language signs of lying.

The following are 30 body language movements which show you signs of lying. No more being oblivious to behavioral signs of infidelity, here is how you can help yourself to learn the truth.

Body Language Signs Which Show Lies And Cheating:

@1# Limited physical movements and face expression. This is due to the fact that lying is stressful and a cheater would try to maintain control of the situation making sure you accept the lie.

@2# Tighter lips.

@3# Forehead tightens; often you can see wrinkles between the eyebrows.

@4# The cheater takes less space literally. Shoulder may be pulled back or elbows are pulled back to the side of body.

@5# Speaking in monotonous tone, leaving out lots of pronouns in sentences.

@6# Trailing off end of sentences, hesitation in the tone of voice.

@7# Talking a little faster than normal and the voice pitch is higher than normal.

@8# Answering questions a little slower than normal, especially if followed by excessive eye movements.

@9# Often a cheater will touch his face especially nose, mouth and chin area subconsciously. Earlobes and behind the ear are also areas to watch out for.

@10# Pale face and hands or extremely red face and hands.

@11# Breathing more heavily. You can even hear it at times.

@12# Avoiding eye contact, squinting or even closing eyes while talking to you.

@13# Increased heart rate. This is not easy to detect.

@14# Palms are not revealed. It’s in a closed position.

@15# Emotional gesture is longer than usual and it suddenly stops or changes.

@16# The expression of the lower part of face does not match the eyes.

@17# Emotional expression does not match words being said.

@18# Avoiding certain subjects by using humor or sarcasm.

@19# Placing objects between you and the cheater or standing far from you.

@20# Standing a little too close to you to imitate closeness.

@21# He may turn his body away when being asked something he is not comfortable to answer.

@22# He gets defensive rather than offensive.

@23# He will also be very happy if you change the subject rather than getting confused why you brought up the previous subject in the first place.

@24# His sentences are complex and seem to be perfect to convince you of his lies.

@25# He uses longer sentences to take time so that he can lie on the spot better.

@26# His answers are not direct.

@27# He is uncomfortable with silence as he is wondering whether or not he’s about to get caught lying.

@28# The cheater will make meaningless comments and statements to distract your attention.

@29# His words and facial expressions don’t seem synchronized.

@30# The cheater will use more words and reasons to explain actions he does that show signs of infidelity.