Are You Just Friends Or More Than Friends?

At times, without really realizing it ourselves, we get closer and closer with a friend and before we know it, we have crossed the line of friendship into love. So are you more than friends or just friends?

Ever feel like both of you are more than just friends? Or do the people that both of you meet always assume that both of you are more than friends?

Do you want to know if you are more than friends or just friends, or are you just confused completely and wondering where your relationship with a special friend is heading?

Here are some pointers which can be used to find out the real status of your relationship.

So, Are You More Than Friends?

Sometimes, two friends can have so many happy things in common that a simple friendship could turn into something a lot more complex over time.

A great friend is a great companion, but a great lover makes a better companion. And who is to fight that logic? After all, it’s the law of love.

If you are perfect for each other, both of you will inevitably fall in love with each other, just as long as the friendship is great and there is that perfect portion of secret attraction that bubbles under the surface.

So, are you more than friends? Use these ten friend-to-lover facts to find out.

@1# Both Of You Call Each Other Every Day

It may start of as an occasional call to keep in touch or exchange a bit of gossip. But over time, the calls get more frequent and last long, and usually stretches late into the night. Soon enough, both of you can’t imagine going to bed without a long happy conversation ending with sweet dreams and ‘dream about me’ conversations.

Ever been there? Most good friends who are attracted to each other have it.

@2# Sharing Secrets And Opinions

Lovers finish each other’s sentences. Friends who are turning into lovers share their secrets and opinions. It’s exciting to talk about each other’s secrets and little dirty details that no one else knows about.

So, does your friend know you sleep in the nude? Or did you find out that your friend was wearing black underwear during last night’s long phone conversation? Friends who are attracted to each other can’t help flirting with each other, and they get pretty excited to share intimate secrets with each other.

@3# Overprotective About Each Other

Friends who are on the verge of going to more than friends are very protective of each other. Do you ask your friend to call you and let you know once they have reached home, or do either of you try to help the other person out of a sticky situation all the time?

Good friends help each other now and then or when asked, but friends who are more than friends try to be there for each other all the time, whether it’s buying new clothes, working on a pet project or picking a date.

@4# New Dates And Jealousy

Is your friend very attractive? Of course, they are. Then chances are, they are going to be getting a lot of attention from the opposite sex. And at times, your friend may be very excited to go out on a date with someone they have liked for a long time.

Do you get irritated if your friend goes out on a date with someone they like, or even talks about their date excitedly? Or does your stomach churn with anger if your friend makes out with someone on a date? If you find yourself getting annoyed with your friend when they have a good time with someone else, there is a good chance you are more than friends, or perhaps, overly possessive.

@5# Spending Weekends And Holidays Together

Groups of friend meet up in the evenings or during the weekends. When you meet your special friend, is it mostly just the both of you or are there other friends too? Weekends and holidays are a time of leisure and happy moments. If both of you meet up and spend a lot of time with each other, it’s obvious that both of you love spending time with each other and being with each other. Now if that is not happy budding romance, what is it?

@6# Go Out On Dates Together

Do both of you go out a lot, just the two of you? If there’s a new movie in town or a new restaurant, does the first thought that pops into your head have your friend and you in it? Attractive friends who go out with each other often don’t do it because there is no one else to go out with, they do it because they love sharing new experiences with each other. It’s a charact4eritic which definitely shows ‘more than friends’ status.

@7# Give Each Other Exclusive Pet Names

Do you and your friend have an exclusive pet name for each other? Pet names are given by people only when they feel an overwhelming surge of affection for each other. Pet names are rather personal and very affectionate. Friends don’t give each other pet names, friends who love each other do it.

@8# Extremely Loyal To Each Other

Do you stand up for your friend no matter what? Or can both of you rely on each other for help or advice even if it’s the middle of the night? Friends trust each other, but there is always a hint of uncertainty even in the best of friends.

On the other hand, when you are in love, you expect your partner to be completely loyal to you and stand by you no matter what. When you are in love, both of you try your best to be loyal to each other, and be there in each other’s time of need. And that is one of the biggest reasons behind why love can also hurt so much, especially when there is a breach in trust and loyalty.

So are both of you extremely loyal to each other? If yes, there is a great chance that you both are more than friends, who also love each other a lot.

@9# A Lot Of Petting And Cuddling

This is one of the biggest signs that you are more than friends. Do you spend most of your time holding hands or resting a head on each other’s shoulders?

Interlocking of arms and occasional cheek kisses don’t really go well in a friendship. If you love cuddling up with your friend, you can’t really date someone else when you have your friend around. It would devastate your new date to see you and your friend cozying up.

And seriously, why would you go cuddling up with a *friend* in the first place? Do friends even do that or do more-than-friends do that?

@10# You Want To Kiss Your Friend

This can be a passing thought, but if it has crossed your mind every time your friend cuddles up with you, you are definitely more than friends.

Friends don’t care about kissing each other or making out with each other; nor do they make stupid pacts like “Let us get married to each other if we don’t find anyone else by the time we are thirty.”.

The fact that you are considering your friend as a date potential definitely shows that you can see your friend as more than just a friend. And if you are indulging in all the above signs, you are both definitely more than just friends.

You Are More Than Friends, Now What?

Just because you are both more than friends doesn’t really mean it’s heading towards true love and both of you will get married soon. It could get there, but all these emotions could also be one-sided and turn out to be limerence or even lust.

In several cases, you may not really love a friend, but you may be curious to know how it could feel to go out with a friend with whom you are quite close to. If these signs seem mutual, then you are definitely on the happy path of more than friends. If not, ask yourself if you really want to be more than friends, or would you be happier being just friends without doing anything about it.

If you want to take it from a friendship to something more intimate, say something like “you know, I wonder why WE haven’t dated each other” to your friend, and they’ll know exactly what you mean.

Use these steps to find out whether you are both more than friends or just friends. And if you do know you are more than friends, do something about it.

How To Avoid The Friend Zone?

Are you afraid about being just a friend to the girl you like? Wondering how to avoid the friend zone? Just understand these pointers and use these tips. You’ll never fall into the friend zone with any girl ever.

Here are few things to understand and to apply if you want to avoid falling into the friend zone.

The friend zone is a tricky place to fall in.

You may be trying hard to get close to a girl, close enough to tell her that you like her, but one fine day she turns around and tells you that you are such a great friend, or worse, you’re just like a brother to her.

Guys find themselves falling into the friend zone almost all the time.

It’s frustrating and demeaning, as well as inevitable, also.

You may get really close to a girl with all the hopes of getting into her pants, but somewhere along the way, you may have taken a few detours that led you right into the friend zone.

What Is A Friend Zone?

A friend zone is a happy place for a girl. It’s a place where she and a guy can sit together and talk about anything and get real friendly with each other.

For a guy, a friend zone is the worst place to be in, especially when he likes the girl who behaves like a friend.

In a friend zone, the two involved friends of the opposite sex are just friends and nothing more. They project no sexual interest towards each other and behave in a completely platonic manner.

But can any guy ever be friends with a girl he finds sexually attractive? The answer is, of course not. He can try to be a friend with the hope of getting an occasional cuddle or a warm boob pressing hug now and then, but he’s always going to be just a friend while she dates every other guy in the yearbook.

How Do Guys Fall Into The Friend Zone?

A guy falls into a friend zone for very obvious reasons. He behaves like a friend. And he never lets the girl know that he has more than friendly intentions on his mind.

And soon enough, the girl loses all realization of the fact that this guy has a package down there. And he just becomes another sexless thing she hangs out with all the time as a platonic friend.

So why do some guys end up as friends instead of boyfriends or sex buddies? Here are the reasons.

@1# They Become Too Close.

Getting too close to a girl on platonic grounds will never help you. You may assume that it’s the easiest way to get a girl to know you better. She’ll definitely get to know you better, but only as a friend.

@2# Lack of Sexual Chemistry.

If a guy likes a girl, he has to make it subtly obvious that he is sexually interested in her. If a guy behaves like a pushover and a doormat, no girl will feel even a tingle of sexual chemistry.

@3# The Girl is Not Attracted.

This sucks, but this is the most common scenario. The guy’s probably creepy, annoying or just not good enough to be her boyfriend.

@4# The Guy Thinks She Is Too Good.

At times, a guy may genuinely believe that the girl he likes is way too good for him. And instead of hitting on her, he secretly lusts for her, but gives up on pursuing her. Could you ever live with yourself by just being the friend of a sexy girl who dates every other guy except you?

@5# He Plays The True Friend.

It works in the movies. The girl has a best friend who’s always there for her. She goes ahead and dates every single guy in the world, and finally, at the end of the movie she sees her true love in the form of her best friend. How touching! And that’s why they call it the movies. In real life, you can’t become a girl’s boyfriend just by behaving like a best friend.

How To Avoid Falling Into The Friend Zone?

It is really easy to avoid falling into the friend zone. All you need to do is drop a few hints now and then to let her know that you’re really into her. One can use these easy tips to get the message across and get her to desire you.

@1# Be a friend without behaving like her other friends.

Don’t talk nonsense for hours or spend time talking about her problems in life. Talk about places she visits, movies she’s watched, and her plans for the weekend. Talk date talk and she’ll sense the chemistry in the air

@2# Talk to her when she is alone. 

If her other friends are around, talk to her if you must or just avoid her. You can’t really hit on a girl when she’s surrounded by a group of friends.

But when you find her alone, make sure you turn on your charm and impress her. If you find her alone start chatting with her. She will get the hint that you like spending time with her alone. Make it obvious that you like spending time with her in whatever way possible, but don’t ask her out or tell her you like her just yet.

@3# Compliment her when she deserves it.

Never lose an opportunity to compliment her. If she looks good, tell her she looks hot. If you see a hint of cleavage and she catches you staring, just laugh, apologize and tell you couldn’t resist it. Add a few funny sexual remarks and you’ll never get into the friend zone.

@4# Touch her and treat her like your girlfriend.

Do it respectfully. Clasp her hand while crossing the street and open doors for her when it’s just the both of you. Make her feel like a queen, and she will love the attention. But when her friends are around, don’t give her any preferential treatment. Let her realize that you are special to her only when it’s just the two of you.

@5# Make her feel special and exclusive. 

Gift her something small and personal, but tell her to keep it a secret. When you create secrets, you build sexual chemistry and suspense, which leads to romance.

@6# Ask her out and change the topic.

When you’re talking to her for a while, ask her out for lunch or coffee. See how she responds. But within a second, change the topic. Don’t wait for her to answer. It’ll seem like a joke, but it will still make her wonder if you really do want to date her. Don’t make things awkward by waiting a while before saying something else. Keep it simple, keep it funny and yet reveal all the thoughts in your mind, and change the topic immediately.

By understanding the above pointers and applying the given tricks, one can obviously avoid falling into the friend zone with a girl. If fact, he will be able to create a secret desire inside her.