Some Men are Scared of Commitment, Why?

Have you ever noticed that there are some men who get much scared of the big 'C' word: commitment? Such fellows can be found everywhere, for example, in our society, in our neighborhood, at our work place etc. So the big question is why are they so scared of commitment?

For a gender that enjoys new challenges and adventures and laughs in the face of danger, you'd think something simple like the word 'marriage' wouldn't scare them off. But alas it's not that case. Men often get very scared by the idea of committing more to their partner. Often it's fatal to the relationship.
 
Some men get so scared off that they have to leave their partners. And this happens again and again throughout their dating life. Though, don't worry, this isn't the majority of men. The majority of men need simple coaxing and helping through the commitment stage. You can help your man by not putting added pressure on him. Let him know that you do want more commitment, but if he isn't willing to give it then you understand. You can wait and you still love him.
 
To get a person to change you first have to accept them as they are. If people feel accepted then they are more likely to put positive changes into action in their lives.

Are You Too Shy To Meet Your Online Love?

There’s nothing to be scared of because online romances often culminate into lifelong partnerships these days. However, when taking the plunge keep these tips in mind and you won’t go wrong!

Meet when YOU are ready and if you feel inclined enough! You are never obliged to meet anyone no matter how comfortable you get over the net. However, don’t unnecessarily lead somebody on. Why bother with the effort if you just want to tease?

Location-wise: Be wise when it comes to the choice of venue. Don’t allow your date to pick you up at home. What if he turns out to be a stalker? Any public space like a restaurant or a café is a sound option. Don’t forget to inform a close friend about your rendezvous plans and leave your date's name and telephone number with that person.

While traveling a longer distance: If the object of your affection is overseas or from another state and you are flying in or driving from another area, arrange for your own car and a hotel room. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information.

Use your instinct: Read the fine print. Do you feel pressurized? Do you sense undue anger or frustration? Watch out for any alarming aberrations.

Get yourself out of a jam: If you are any way afraid of your date, use your judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior. Your safety is much more important than one person's opinion of you.

The Underlying Concepts:

You could be smart or sloppy. You could ooze sensuality and wit; you could be poetic and sensitive. You could be the proverbial introvert. You could be intelligent. You could be anything and everything under the sun.

You could be severely eligible. And yet you maybe single.

Maybe you haven’t met someone who mentally, intellectually, physically and emotionally (is that to much to ask for?) stimulates you in ages. Maybe you live in a metro. Maybe time is a constraint and the opportunities to socialize and ‘meet’ potential romantic interests are on the wane. And you might be smothered with lots of doubts like –‘Is there something wrong with me? Am I boring? What can I do to improve my romantic prospects? Arranged marriage…yikes!’

Well, banish those thoughts. You share a common predicament with millions across the globe. So what can you do to find a touch of chemistry in this crazy world of today? If conventional methods aren’t helping, then maybe you could resort to more innovative ones; Like the internet, for instance.

Online dating, a by-product of the net craze isn’t just new age madness. It’s a concept that was born due to changing circumstances and fascinating technology. Online dating has created possibilities for this generation that our parents never dreamt of.

While lots of dubious ‘characters’ are lurking about on the web; you'll also find them hanging around at nightclubs, sipping coffee at your regular café, in the local trains and in your office.

Dating is never a risk-free activity, anyways and the same goes for online dating.

If approached the right way, the medium of the internet could actually lead you to whom you are looking for. We bring you some tips that could make your search more fruitful and more fun!

How To Avoid Money Tiffs?

Considering that love exists and you do want togetherness with this guy, it makes sense to hold the money devil by its horns and tame it so that it doesn’t come between the two of you. Get a grip right now on the situation by using a bit of humility, common senses, patience and tact. Here’s how…

• Understand that you have chosen to live with and love this guy. Whatever be his financial situation, he is desirable to you and should remain so. After all, it does not take financial positions and situations to take a turn.

• Make your parents understand this as well. Don’t allow them to bring up the money talk and the disparity in your incomes in front of him. This will instill inferiority complex in your man and might make him feel that he is being subjugated to humility. Avoid such discussions with friends also. Besides, it is your personal arena, do not make your income disparity open to public analysis.

• Do not over insist on footing the bill at a restaurant or while on a shopping expedition with your man. If he wishes to pay, let him. And never ever pass comments such as, “Its ok honey let me pay. Anyway I earn much more so I can afford this.” By doing this, you will be trampling all over his self-respect.

• Do not keep drumming in the fact in that you earn more and you are doing better.

• Do not keep discussing his career moves with him with an air of authority just because you are financially more sound. This will make him feel that you are in the driving seat and he is being babied. Most men will detest the feeling.

• Do not make major buying decisions or financial decisions like a picking up a fridge or a home theater etc without his knowledge or his consultation.

• Avoid giving him an overtly expensive gift without his knowledge. He might take this an offense and start comparing his purchasing capacity with yours.

• If you are living in or are married, then it makes sense to have a joint account. Deposit equal amounts in this account and use this money for all joint expenditures. This will take care of most of the strife.

Remember that money can’t buy you love. Also remember that money has the power to break the strongest of bonds. Ensure that you don’t fall pray to its power-play. Relish togetherness!

Are You Single For Too Long?

In this world full of stress and strife, we all desire a caring partner who dotes on us. However, some women find their ‘dream guy’ more easily than others. Call it their charm, the magic of their magnetic personality or destiny, they are simply adept at attracting men by the dozens. Then there are some who don’t manage to pull on their date to even a second one. But there may be some reasons behind your failing dates. Maybe you have forgotten how to play the dating game because you have been single for far too long. But how do you figure that you have maintained the single status for longer than you should have. Here are seven signs:

#1#. You're awkward around men

A valid reason for the lack of a guy in your life is your clumsy and awkward behaviour around them. You don’t know what to talk to them about.

You don’t know how to react when they give you a compliment. When a guy makes a subtle pass, you either get miffed like a child instead of getting flattered or react too excitedly, as a result turning him off completely. When you actually string together a few dates with a guy, you blow it all up by doing something weird like fighting over the bill with him and telling him that hey I know you can take me out but I have an ego too.

#2#. Loneliness is making you desperate

On those lonely nights, you actually log on to chat rooms for singles and chat to strangers for hours online about estranged love and life and much more. You have actually registered yourself on matrimony sites looking for a guy ‘who will provide you with love and care’. You spend a quarter of your day looking though profiles on line for a ‘suitable’ guy. Really, if you indulge in any of this, you have been out of sorts for sure.

#3#. You think that every guy you meet is making a pass at you

Women in relationship get attention from their men. Women, who date, get attention from their dates. But women who hardly even meet men get no attention from anywhere. This lack of attention can do things to their head. When you start thinking that every random guy who looks at you, speaks to you or smiles at you is making a pass at you and desires you immensely then you really have been single for too long.

#4#. Valentine’s day rolls by and no guy asks you out

You know you have been single for more that you should have been, when guys don’t ask you out simply because they have never seen you going out with a guy. They are left thinking that you never go on dates so why should they spend their energy asking you out.

#5#. You have started looking like Ethel from Archie Comics

Presence of a guy in a woman’s life keeps her conscious about her appearance and she stays busy looking after herself. Though a guy is never the only reason for which she dresses up but an absence of a guy can surely make a woman disinterested when it comes to dolling herself up. If your hair haven’t been pruned for months and your skin is full of blemishes, your hands are unkempt and you have been putting on weight insanely then you know that you are getting where you shouldn’t.

#6#. Most of your friends are always trying to hook you up with someone

When every third day from someone or the other you hear things like, “Hey I am meeting this really interesting friend of mine who also happens to be single, why don’t you join us” then you know that people have seen you single for far too long.

#7#. Stop hanging out with only girls

Because you don't hang around with guys at all, people might start thinking that you aren’t straight. If guys think that you swing the other way, however attractive you may be, they will never ask you out. But don’t blame people. If you spend all your time chilling out with your girl friends and never step out with a guy then what are they to think? If this isn’t a sign of your long retained single status, then what is?

If you relate to three or more of these signs then the label of being single has been on you sleeve for rather long and you need to dump it SOON. Read these signs for what they are and get back into the dating game. After all, everyone needs to experience that lovely thing called love.

Men Love The Mysterious Girl

A woman is known for her mysterious side. A secret which every man dreams to uncover. It is said that you “never understand a woman” and this is the only thing which pulls a man towards her. Her secrets, her unpredictable nature, her sobs which often bursts into a series of laughter is always a puzzle for the man who aspires to solve it one day. Let us see how you can use this mysterious side of yours into a treasure hunt for your man, laying a trail which can definitely unlock the secrets of your heart. It’s your key to getting your partner more interested in you.

@1# Creating an impression

What could be a better colour for our ‘secret lady’ than a dress in black. Apply a dash of mascara with a silver lining or smoky grey eye shadow leaving behind a dusky effect for your eyes to narrate a tale which was never told to him.

Wear a dress which is not so revealing yet it conceals the contours of your body in a perfect manner that sets off a trail of imagination.

@2# Talking secrets

Speak to him about the innocent girl in you who believes in a fairy and Prince Charming riding a horse. Also do not forget to mention about the daring and passionate side of yours which has the power of steel and can bend the universe with your impregnable confidence. Give him a taste of your indecisive nature that does not know what to shop at times and the focus that you have on your goals which does not waver and has the stillness of an ice-berg. Yes, have him a bit confused.

@3# Where to go?

If you really want to intrigue him, take him to a place which has a theme of the unknown. Where else can you floor him with your deadly secrets?

@4# The way to man’s heart

Last but not the least serve him with a home made dessert prepared by you as we all know that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. This way he will be all set to explore your hidden treasures better.

The Chemistry Behind Love

Love is as much a hormonal issue as is an emotional one. Ever wondered why you blush and go weak-kneed while meeting your special other? Why does the person appear "sexy" and attractive after a few interactions? As much as it is a mind game, the body and hormones too play a major role in deciding our love lives. Here is how…

• The weak-kneed reaction is triggered by an overdose of a chemical called phenylethylamine (PEA). Popularly known as the “love molecule” this one is found in the brain and has high levels of nitrogen. Chocolates are also known to trigger off PEA secretion…

• The weak-kneed reaction is usually followed by lust which is triggered by “testosterone” -the male hormone. Body’s secretion of hormone shoots up when the mind is “in love”.

• Sweaty palms are a result of increased blood pressure or adrenaline rush. This leads to fastened heart rate, heavy breathing and blushing. An excess intake of oxygen is the reason behind the “giddy”, “light headed” feeling.

• Adrenaline and Serotonin (low levels) lead to attraction.

• PEA also releases dopamine, “a feel good” neuro-transmitter that controls emotional responses and our ability to react to stimulus (pleasure and pain).

• This neuro-transmitter is responsible for crystallizing lust into attraction, leading to the birth of a relationship.

• Dopamine also produces oxytocin, the “cuddle chemical”.

So the next time your heart goes racing, you just blame the hormones at work…

How To Reduce Online Dating Dangers

Are you still seeking your soul mate?
 
Or are you just looking for friends with the same interests?
 
Well, online dating is definitely a great way to widen your circle of friends. It is really fun to meet many interesting people and sometimes addictive for many people. Some have even met their soul mate by meeting their perfect lifetime match through an online dating portal! It is just amazing the convenience and the benefits that online dating brings to the busy people.
 
If you are new to online dating, there maybe risks which you may put yourself in even without you knowing. Good thing you are reading this! Here are some dangers of online dating that you might face and and if you face sometime you can do these to reduce such risks:
 
#1# The very first danger of online dating is when you become a scam victim. Not everyone in the online dating scene is a good guy or girl. Many scam artists masked their real identity in order to cheat someone not only of their money but emotions, feelings as well. Sad but true - many women "catch" men and ask them for money by giving empty promises. Then after the money comes to them, they disappear. There are even cases when men sexually assault the women when meet up for a date after they "meet" on an online dating site.
 
So, do not be over-credulous. The person who you are communicating with can write anything in his or her profile and he or she may not be whoever they tell you. In fact, you cannot be completely sure if it is a she or a he. In case you decide to meet your dating partner - do some background checks. Moreover, to be safe, your first date should be during daytime in a busy public place. Better still, get a friend to come along.
 
#2# Another possible danger of online dating is to give out your real address and personal information. Well, the person who is asking for your address might seem completely normal and harmless, you may even "know" him online for quite time. In any case, you should never give your home or work address as you don't really know who you are dealing with.
 
Thus, remember - never give out your personal information. No real phone number or address. Some people do not even share their real name (as you can find the address and even the phone number using it), but use nicknames instead. If things get serious and if enough time has passed you may consider sharing such information with your dating partner.
 
#3# Another danger of online dating is to get lots of unsolicited email messages. There will be many people asking for your email address in order to continue your relationship off the online dating site and only in a few hours, you will discover that you have become a spammer victim with your email box flooded with spams.
 
So, if you can stick by those general guidelines, online dating can be a great and safe experience. When in doubt, do not hesittate to consult your friends or families on what to do. Most importantly, never meet someone you met online in person alone without informing anyone else.
 
Happy Dating!!
 
One final word : trust your gut feeling and never take chances. If your feel a person is right and genuine go ahead,you might have found the love of your life. However, it is better to be very careful and do not rush things. Take one-step at a time and think over it many times before you actually do it.

ONE NIGHT STANDS – The Rules Revealed

Loneliness can lead people into strange bonds and unknown alleys of life. It makes them so desperate that they knowingly walk into frivolous affairs for a night, called “one-night stands”, to feel loved for a single night. If you’re an adult and choose to opt for a ‘no strings attached’ relationship, it is perfectly fine. But do remember that this comes with some responsibilities you must shoulder.
 
Here are 5 essential precautions that you must observe for your very own safety.
 
#1# Take appropriate protection.

You don’t want to be punished forever for one fun-filled night, so be alert and take precautions. Make this a rule to never ever jump into the act without taking proper protection. Pills don’t work always so insist on the guy wearing a condom. If the guy refuses on wearing a condom, get out of there fast. It’s not worth the fun at all.
 
#2# Be sure of what you want and inform your partner about the same.

Before you get into something, ensure that you have the capability to get in and out of such bonds. Talk to your ‘partner in fun’ openly and let him know about your short-term intentions in time. Also keep your heart in check so that you don’t start getting emotionally involved or all hell will break loose. After all, you don’t want to keep dreaming about someone who desired you only for a night. At the same time you don’t want to be haunted and followed by someone for months for the act of a night. So ensure that you and your partner are on the same page.
 
#3# Keep friends out of it.

When you are not going to see him again then what’s the point in telling friends about him or introducing him to them? He is not going to become a part of your life so don’t make him a part of your social circle either. Don’t go to such a place for dinner with him where you are likely to run into friends. Order in food if you can. If you stay with roommates and you are shacking up at your place, ensure that your roommate is away and is unlikely to catch you with him. Though she won’t have a right to comment on your involvements, why let her in on your secrets that will leave her uncomfortable. Similarly, don’t meet his friends. Simply because it’s a small world and if you run into his friends while at work or when you are with a prospective love interest, you don’t want them to question you about your one-night guy.
 
#4# No photographs please.

It’s not a bond for even a few weeks, forget a lifetime, so why create memories. Memories of someone you don’t intend meeting again makes no sense and will create only heart ache and will give birth to unanswerable questions. So don’t take any photographs and don’t allow the guy to click any either. He’s in it for ‘no strings attached’ fun as well, then why should he need to create memories.
 
#5# Avoid personal conversations and exchange of personal information.

Just like you don’t need to create memories, you don’t need to create routes for staying in touch either. If you run into each other again, it’s destiny. But don’t exchange phone numbers or addresses or your personal blog details on your own because it might create hope in his heart or yours for a little more. If he insists on your contact information, give wrong details and get out of there.
 
The rules of this game are simple. Once you have gotten into a one-night stand, you must stick to your decision of keeping it as a one-night stand, unless you both talk it out to take it further mutually. In that case, it no longer remains a one-night stand and becomes a beginning to a new love story. But for one-night stands, ‘take precautions, have fun, get-in and get-out and don’t look back’ is the funda.

8 Inviting Flirting Signs That Women Usually Send

Do you want to know how to tell if a woman is attracted to you?
 
I bet you do!
 
One joke I used to tell with my friends is how I wished women had a "magical light bulb" which shines every time they were attracted to me. It would take all the guesswork out of trying to figure out which women to approach.
 
Unfortunately there's no such thing as a magical light bulb!
 
In order to understand if a woman has attraction, you have to study her body language. If you can detect certain signs of flirting when observing her, then you'll know she's attracted to you.
 
So what are these signs of flirting?
 
Well in the next few paragraphs, I'll reveal 8 flirting cues which women send you. If you see ANY of these, you'll know she's attracted to you:
 
Flirting Cue #1#- She's laughing with her friends and looking back at you


Women understand the fact that men are attracted to girls who have a sense of humor. If you see a woman laughing with her friends and then quickly glancing in your direction, you know she's trying to demonstrate a sense of humor.
 
By showing off this type of behavior she hopes you'll pick up on her "fun lifestyle" and will be interested in her.
 
Flirting Cue #2#- She keeps on looking right at you
 
One way women get men to approach them is to directly look at you and maintain prolonged eye contact. Some will even give a nice smile.
 
This is probably one of the most obvious flirting signs you'll receive from a woman!
 
Flirting Cue #3#- She's checking you out
 
Yes it's true...
 
Women often check out guys!
 
To detect if a girl is checking you out, watch if she does the 'vertical scan'.
 
This is where she'll look at your face and then moving her eyes from her feet to your heard.
 
This flirting signal means she's found something attractive about you and would like see more.
 
Flirting Cue #4#- She'll try to look best for you
 
When a woman knows you've observed her, she'll make a quick effort to look her best for

you.
 
To do this, she'll preen her hair and clothes.
 
What's great is these actions are subconscious, so she has little control over doing this. When you see this flirting cue, you know she's trying to look her best for you.
 
When you see any of these 4 flirting cues, approach and start talking to her!
 
Flirting Cue #5#- She will open herself up to you
 
Now once you've approach her, you should try to detect a few different flirting cues to detect if she wants you to kiss her or take things to the next level.
 
The first sign to look for is if she's trying to open herself up!
 
When a woman displays an "openness" with her body language, she's demonstrating a classic sign of attraction.
 
Open body language means her arms will be spread and her wrists will be turned towards you.
 
Flirting Cue #6#- She'll stroke herself
 
When a woman is talking to you she'll show a sign of flirting by stroking her neck or touching her hair. Also she might even her thigh!
 
I personally LOVE seeing these signs of flirting!
 
That's because when a woman touches these sensitive areas, she's probably thinking about what YOU could do to them.
 
Flirting Cue #7#- She'll draw closer to you
 
Another great sign of flirting is when a woman will draw closer to you during your conversation. She'll do this to show a desire to create more intimacy during your conversation.
 
Another trick is she'll lower her voice to have you draw closer to you!
 
When you see this, you're receiving an incredible sign of attraction!
 
Flirting Cue #8#- She'll scan your face including your eyes and lips
 
This final flirting cue demonstrates a desire that she wants to be kissed!
 
When a woman moves her eyes back and forth between your eyes and mouth, she's showing a classic sign of flirting where she's thinking about you kissing her.
 
When you see this flirting sign, act right away...
 
Start kissing her!
 
Once you do this, you'll be on the road towards making things more intimate!
 
Women give subtle signals to men which indicate attraction.
 
When you take the time to look for flirting cues, you'll discover she's sending signals which mean she wants to get to know you better and make things more intimate!
 
So, pay attention and you'll be happy with the results!

How To Date A Married Woman ?

Dating with a married woman would be a fantastic idea for any man. It does not matter whether you are younger or senior to that woman. Just think a little bit and you would be able to get answers ready at hand.
 
If she is really attractive, mature and compassionate, there is no harm in making a relationship even if she is married… In this world, nobody knows which relationship is perfect and is going to stay till the end except your association with the God. You may be thinking of the consequences of making love or dating a married woman. Do never feel so, if you really feel to make a relationship with her - go and tell her straightforward.
 
I am telling the real story that happened with one of my closest friends only a few days ago. He had fallen in love with one of his neighbors. She was a real beauty and every young heart wished to meet her and dreamt of spending a few hours with her. My friend used to stare at her whenever he had an idle time. He tried many times to propose her, but could not do so due to hesitation. One fine afternoon, seeing his heartthrob roaming around the lake with young a boy surprised my friend. They were in an intimate position and my friend came straight back home feeling depressed. So, to avoid such an awkward situations, you should march forward and express your thoughts to your lover.
 
Dating with a married woman would be a fantastic idea for any man. It does not matter whether you are younger or senior to that woman. Just think a little bit and you would be able to get answers ready at hand. 

Since married women are experienced in every respect, you would not face any problem to quench your thirst for sex. You would have to play according to the directions of your lover and by doing so you may find infinite pleasure. You cannot expect so much fun from any inexperienced girl. If you want to enjoy sexual intercourse from an inexperienced girl you would have to take initiative for enjoying the pleasure. You cannot expect getting pleasure from her without toiling hard. On the other hand, experienced women can satisfy you and lessen your apprehensions at the time of having sex. She knows very well how to stimulate different organs quickly. Apart from that, she would tell you what is the exact way to arouse her sexually. Accurate position and technique is required for enhancing extended sexual action and that can be certainly expected from an experienced woman.
 
If you want to have relationship with a married woman, you can expect unconditional love, which you may not get from an unmarried one. Think of the situation – a married woman will only come close to you when she would feel unsatisfied with her legal husband. To gratify her thirst for sex, she would come to you and would do whatever is necessary. In such condition, she would expect nothing more than a happy sexual relationship. On the other hand, your aim would also be to satisfy your heart to the fullest by playing with her different parts. In addition to all these, you can satisfy your libido without wasting any material things. This relationship would be an unconditional one.
 
She needs nothing from you except love and sexual pleasure. As she is married, she is supposed to have all the material things that are required to live on the earth. The following story would surely make you understand a little bit: One day, feeling deeply depressed about her sexual life a married woman decided to commit suicide. She wrote a suicidal note and left it open at their study. Finding this note, her husband’s friend rescued her from danger. There was none in the flat and listening the entire story of her, that young handsome boy decided to satisfy her. Soon, they became friend, lover and partner to each other. In absence of her husband, they used to meet in their flat and get into the act until they both were fully satisfied. Within a few days, that married woman found out reasons to live for more days on the earth. They never exchanged any material gifts or any expensive items, but continued making love for a couple of years.
 
Thus, you can enjoy your life without really burning your pocket. Apart from this, it would be your safest relationships on the earth. Since the married woman would never try to reveal the relationship that exists between you and her, you are rest assured of playing safely. In this way, you can continue making love with your girlfriend and that married woman at the same time.
 
To get rid off from the monotony of life, you can sometime go for a long drive with that married woman and can get pleasure from her. Nobody would be aware of your relationship, but both of you can fulfil your desire. So, what are you waiting for? Just be ready to start dating a married woman and bring utmost satisfaction to your life.