Wednesday, October 25, 2017

How To Attract Any Girl ?

How to attract a girl ?- this is one question every guy must be having in his mind. There are ‘few specific characteristics or qualities’ which a guy must have in order to attract a girl.

In fact, a well decided guy can attract any girl if he has these qualities. Want to know how to attract any girl? It starts by getting the girl interested in you and curious about you. With that foundation you can gradually build a lasting attraction with any woman. As for how to spark that interest and curiosity; here are some tips that will help you do just that.

#1# Project Confidence

Confidence is the one irresistible trait you must have if you want to attract women. And women can tell right away whether or not you’re confident just by looking at your body language. For example, if you’re fidgeting or making yourself “small” in your environment, women will see you as lacking confidence.

So, the first step in “how to attract any girl” is to adopt confident body language. Keep your body movements calm and controlled. Make yourself big. Don’t be afraid to take up room and claim the space immediately around you. If that’s difficult due to feeling nervous or uncomfortable, take slow, deep breaths while focusing on the sensations in your body. This will help you relax and allow that confident body language to come out naturally.

#2# Get Her Laughing

Every girl wants a guy who can make her laugh. And there’s no better time to prove you have that ability than at the beginning of the conversation. Get a girl to smile early on and it’ll help her relax and feel comfortable talking to you. All while sparking that interest and attraction.

One technique you can use to start a conversation and get a girl laughing is playful teasing. This is particularly effective because most guys are too insecure to playfully tease a girl right off the bat. By starting your conversations this way you show you’re not intimidated by attractive women. You can get her laughing and show tremendous confidence at the same time.

Here are just two examples of how to start a conversation with playful teasing: (1) “You know you’d look cute in purple” (2) “Excuse me, You’re too damn cute”. Lines like these can get a conversation started on a fun, playful note.

#3# Make Her Win You Over


Projecting confidence and making a girl laugh are common tips for how to attract any girl. But there’s another tip that’s equally important that doesn’t get nearly as much discussion. It’s called qualification.

Qualification is all about getting the woman to prove that she’s a cool, interesting girl. It shows you’re a guy with standards who doesn’t invest his time and attention in just any attractive girl. When you actively filter women like this they see you as a high-value guy. They will then put more effort into keeping your interest and attention.

After bantering with a girl you can start qualifying by asking questions like “So, What are your plans for today?” or What’s your deal?” or “What are three things I wouldn’t know about you by looking?” These questions are great because they’re open-ended and allow the girl to share as much information as she feels comfortable. They also give you a great chance to get to know her. You can then find out if she truly is a cool, interesting girl.

#4# Create An Emotional Connection


In order to know how to attract any girl it’s important to know how to connect with any girl. That is, how to build an emotional connection so she feels close to you, and you feel close to her.

One way to build that emotional connection with a girl is to use the “I” perspective when speaking. Express your thoughts, opinions – and most importantly your emotions – directly. For example, saying “I love to play Sudoku” gives her a glimpse into your emotional world. But if you said “Playing Sudoku is great” then that emotional component is taken out of the picture completely. Talking about your personal experiences, rather than objective facts, is going to get her feeling more deeply connected to you.

#5# Build Sexual Tension

No article on how to attract any girl would be complete without talking about “how to build sexual tension”. After all this is what keeps guys out of the friend-zone.

One of the most effective ways to build sexual tension with women is through touch. Start touching the girl early on in your conversation by lightly tapping the back of your hand against her elbow. If she’s okay with that contact, you can gradually move on to touch her for longer periods of time in more intimate areas (shoulder, back, thigh, face).

The key to knowing when you should touch more – or less – is to check for compliance. If she allows you to touch her, or starts touching you in response, then you can take things a step further with your touch. If however she recoils or moves away when you touch her, then give her space. Build more comfort through banter and creating an emotional connection. When she’s a bit more comfortable, try to build that sexual tension once again.

#6# Be Unattached To The Outcome

One thing that will help you tremendously when learning how to attract any woman is being unattached to the outcome. That is, don’t get hung up on whether or not you get a phone number, a date, or even get the girl to like you. Just enjoy the process of meeting women and focus on having fun. If you’re not looking to get anything from your interactions with women then you’ll have no trouble being confident, fun, open, and sexual with women.

The best way to make this your natural way of being is to get lots of experience talking and flirting with women. Make a point to talk to at least three women a day and practice the techniques mentioned. The more experience you get the less you’ll care about each individual interaction.

Friday, October 20, 2017

5 Sure Ways To Get Her Attention

If you are figuring out ways to get her attention, then this post could be a must read for you. A good hunter should be a good marksman. So, if you’re hoping to catch some meaty damsels this year, you’ll need the right bait - your persona. In order to become more than your average charmer, you need to start thinking of seduction as a performance art.

Being a sociable guy, and doing it well, means you can’t just sweet talk, rely on liquid courage and use flattery. You should send out strong feel-good vibes, pulling everyone toward you. Ladies will have you on their radar because you’re the ‘The Guy.’

#1# Be Talkative To Everyone

Maximize your attractiveness by being an all-around kind, talkative guy. Don’t limit your attention to just good-looking women. You’ll become a one-trick pony with an obvious conquering mentality, and risk turning the ladies off. Instead, be the guy who’s attractive to all types of women: old, quiet, ordinary – just everyone!

The lesson here is that if you’re a generally likeable guy, you’ll increase your positive interactions, creating a ripple effect that will attract the women you really desire.

#2# Be Yourself With Confidence

As corny as it sounds, being yourself is the best way to stand out; after all, there’s only one you. When you try to be someone else, be it the cocky guy, the hipster or the hedge fund snob, your fakeness and insecurities will come through, ruining the quality of your impact on women. So, be yourself with all the quirks included, but do it with self-certainty and pride. The sincerity of who you are is your best asset; you just need the confidence to work it.

#3# Be Engaging

Beyond looks, money and status, a woman wants to be engaged. Whether you can stimulate her through witty conversation or your sense of humor, use your natural qualities to hook her. You can also use your context to help; if you’re at an outdoor get-together or barbecue party, for example, you can join in on a sports game or start mixing drinks for the ladies.

#4# Dress To Win

Your look is a powerful weapon when sporting for ladies. Yet, when you glance in the mirror, what do you see? Do you see an impressive, put-together man or a horny boy with a Metallica t-shirt and a shabby 5 o’clock shadow? If you’re not sure or you’re hovering in the middle, your image is not presentable enough to attract highly prized women. In this case, consider choosing some outfits that bring out a mature and desirable version of yourself.

#5# Make Eye Contact

A man who’s not intimidated by women will look them straight in the eye. With each interaction you have with a woman, use eye contact - without being creepy - and show her your confidence. This fearlessness and sense of certainty will make you feel more empowered, allowing you to work your magic more effectively. As you both lock eyes together, you increase the chances of chemistry brewing between the two of you.

Sunday, October 15, 2017

10 Signs: Your Lover Is Commitment Phobic

True commitment phobia is fear of any kind of commitment that involves other people, not just relationship commitment. It can involve difficulties making important decisions in all areas of life but folks with commitment phobia need not be afraid of committing to things that do not involve other people. They may have no problem buying a house or a car or getting a dog. Their fear usually is connected with making a promise to another person.

Falling in love with a person with commitment phobia can be a nightmare. Watch out for signs of commitment phobia before you find yourself hopelessly in love with someone who is not capable of having a relationship. A person with commitment phobia need not display every one of the following symptoms but the more symptoms he or she displays the more likely it is that he or she suffers from the condition.

@1#. Their past relationships are all short and noncommittal.


If your beau has never been married and has had a series of short relationships despite not being all that young, then he or she probably is not likely to commit to a long term relationship in the future either. It’s also a red flag if your romantic encounter has had long relationships but these relationships didn’t involve any serious commitment on his or her part.

@2#. They are not willing to commit to dates or nights out in advance.


Making plans for the future that are not strictly required is a major cause of fear for someone who suffers from commitment phobia. He or she will prefer to make same-day plans or commit only a few days in advance.

@3#. They are not letting you know whether they are attending your party.


Just as a person with commitment phobia will be afraid of agreeing to dates several days or week in advance, he or she will also have difficulties saying "yes" to a party or meeting, unless this is strictly required of them. They may say that they might come to your party or even that they probably will be there. But they will prefer not to say with certainty that they can make it.

@4#. They use a lot of modifiers when speaking.


If you listen carefully, you will hear them use ‘probably’, ‘maybe’, ‘probably not’, ‘I might’, ‘I might not’ and the like much more than other people. If asked when they will be home from work, they won’t say they will be home by 5. Instead they will say that they probably will be home by 5.

@5#. They are sexually active, perhaps even promiscuous.


People with commitment phobia have a need for intimacy like everyone else. But their need is not getting met by being close to another human being. To compensate for this, they may be very sexually active, sometimes bordering promiscuous.

@6#. Most of their relationships are undefined.


If you are in a relationship with a person with commitment phobia, you most likely will not have had any significant conversations with him or her about your relationship. You may find yourself not knowing what kind of relationship you have, despite having been with him or her for several years.

@7#. They don't say the L-word.


People with commitment phobia have difficulties expressing their feelings. They may even be afraid of having feelings. So they are not likely to say that they love you and also mean it.

@8#. They don't like to use the words "boyfriend" and "girlfriend".


If your love interest is very commitment phobic, even the relatively innocent words "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" will signify more commitment than they are capable of. They may simply avoid talking about the status of your relationship, or they may offer some lame excuse for why they don't want to use these labels.

@9#. They don't have a whole lot of close friends.


They may know a lot of people. They may even call them friends. But they don't have many really close buddies. There is most likely no one in their life they can talk to about everything.

@1#0. They are unpredictable.


You never know quite how your love interest will behave or what kind of mood they will be in. One day they may be really sweet and seem almost normal and the next day they may avoid you altogether. Their behavior never ceases to surprise you.

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

How To Get Your Ex Girl Back

Winning a girl back is much harder than catching the eye of a new girl, but if you really want to reignite an old flame, there are a few things you can do to maximize your chances. To get her back, you have to make her want you, show how much you've changed, and then make the move.

Part 1: Making Her Want You Again

#1# Give her some space. 

The first thing you need to do is give the girl some space. If you start knocking down her door and calling her every five minutes she'll only pull further away from you. The amount of space and time you give her depends on what happened when you tried to date her. If you ended a serious relationship, you'll need to give her more space than you would if you had just dated a few times.
  • Don't call her, chat with her at parties, or email her just to see how she's doing.
  • If you see her socially, be polite and say hi, but make it clear that you're not going to bother her.
  • Just don't give her too much space. If you leave her alone for a few months, that will give her plenty of time to find someone new.

#2# Give yourself some time to reflect. 

Not only should you give her some space, but you should give yourself some space to reflect and think about what went wrong in the relationship. Take the time to sit down and ask what you did to make her not want you; were you too attentive, too moody, or too distant? Whatever you did, you have to make sure never to do it again if you want a moment of her day.
  • Write down the things that went wrong. Consider what you can do to improve this kind of behavior.
  • Don't date anyone else during the reflection period. Focus on self-improvement and working on not repeating the same mistakes.
  • Don't pursue her until you've figured out what went wrong and know how to change it.

#3# Stay busy. 

Though you should avoid getting busy in the bedroom while you're trying to win your girl back, you should try to live a busy and active life so you can work on being independent and pursuing your interests. If you're just sitting around waiting for enough time to pass to start trying to hang out with her again, she'll know.
  • Continue pursuing your hobbies and interests. Don't stop doing all of the things you love because your heart is aching.
  • Spend time with your friends. They'll cheer you up and lend you a fresh perspective.
  • Work out. Your self-esteem will improve if you exercise a few times a week, and all the better if she sees you out running.

#4# Let her see you having a great time. 

Once you've given her some space and have worked on self-improvement, she'll be much closer to wanting you. But now you have to put all the pieces together and let her see what an amazing guy you are and how much fun it is to be around you. Be strategic. Without looking like a stalker, make sure you're hanging out in some of the same places so she can see what a blast it is to be around you.
  • Laugh it up. If she sees you, try to laugh with your friends as much as you can without being too obvious about it.
  • Be animated. If she's around, be very animated and interested in the conversations you're having, showing that you're a passionate guy who loves to talk to his friends.
  • Don't ignore her when she sees you. Give her a small wave and go back to the great conversation you were having.
  • Dance. That's right. Chances are she was mad that you didn't dance with her more. Let her see you getting down on the dance floor and having a great time.
  • Let her see you being your best self. There was obviously something she liked about you, so use your assets to your advantage.

#5# Make her jealous. 

This is an optional move because it depends on the situation. If your relationship ended because she was so jealous that you were always hanging around with other girls, then you shouldn't make her jealous or she'll just be reminded of the reason why things didn't work out between you. But if your relationship ended because she thought you were just too into her, or that she was bored by you, then making her jealous is a great move. Here's how to do it:
  • If you're on speaking terms, casually mention other girls. You can mention one girl a few times, leading her to wonder, "Who is this girl?" Or you can just talk about a group of girls, mentioning that you were at a party that was filled with mostly girls but that you were "okay with that."
  • Let her see you with other girls. Chat with her for a few minutes before moving on to flirt with another girl that's nearby. Make sure you're close enough for her to watch it happen.
  • Don't overdo it. If she hears you talking about other girls and sees you flirting with others, she may want you even more, but if you're all over every girl at every party, you may look desperate or sleazy.

Part 2: Showing Her You Have Changed 

#1# If it was too easy the first time, make her chase you. 

If you can't think of what went wrong in the relationship because you smothered her with love, then chances are that this was exactly what went wrong. She must have felt that your love and relationship was too easy, so you should try to make it more of a challenge.
  • Be aloof. You should still give her some attention, but act busy or distracted and like you're not giving all your attention to her for once. This will confuse her and will make her want you more.
  • Be sparing with the compliments. If you did nothing but compliment her 24/7 when you were together, give her just one compliment to show that you're not obsessing over her.
  • Let her come to you. She was probably used to having you come up to her, touch her, and talk to her all the time; now, it's time for some role reversal. If you're at a party, let her approach you instead of stopping everything you're doing to head her way.

#2# If it was too hard the first time, make it easier.
 
If you broke up because she felt that you didn't give her enough affection or time or that you spent too much time flirting with other women, it's time to do the exact opposite and to make yourself available to her and have no other women on your radar.
  • Show her that your schedule is free and that you're up for hanging out whenever. She'll no longer have to hang out with you during the one hour you're free.
  • Don't make her jealous. In your case, you should stay away from the other ladies as much as possible to show that you only have eyes for her.
  • Take the time to listen. If she thought you didn't care about her feelings before, maintain eye contact and let her talk without interrupting. You can mention something she said in the conversation a day later to show that you really do hang on to her every word.
  • Compliment her. If you never complimented her before, she'll see that you changed.

#3# If you hurt her, apologize.
 
If you really want her back, you have to be the man and apologize for what went wrong. If she was hurt by you, she'll want to stay away from you for fear of getting hurt again. So man up and tell her you made a mistake.
  • Make sure to do this in person. It won't do if you just send her a text message or an e-mail; it has to be in person otherwise she will see that you are not very serious about this apology and so she won't take it seriously either. So own up and go apologize for what you did to her.
  • Be sincere. Maintain eye contact when you talk to her and keep a calm, even tone. She won't believe you if it sounds like you're apologizing just because it's what you should do.
  • Be specific. Don't just say, "I'm sorry for everything." Say, "I'm sorry I didn't listen to you when you really wanted to talk. I should have been much more attentive." She will appreciate this, and it will make you seem more self-aware.
  • Don't be disappointed if she doesn't accept your apology right away. If she doesn't accept it, she's probably still working through what happened but still appreciates your effort. Just say, "You can't blame me for trying" instead of arguing her into accepting your apology.

#4# Show what a better, more mature person you've become.
 
She should be able to see how much you've changed without you having to say it yourself or to convince her that you're completely different. Face it - many girls are more mature than their male counterparts, so wow her with your ability to be rational and mature.
  • Don't be moody. Act even-keeled and calm, and she'll be impressed.
  • Be confident. Show her that you're happy who you are and what you do, and she'll be happier with who you are too.
  • Be responsible. Show her that you can manage your finances, hold down a good job, and take care of your dog at the same time.
  • Don't be jealous. Don't ask her about that guy she's been talking to; this will only encourage her to talk to him more, and will make you look insecure for caring.

Part 3: Making A Move

#1# Tell her how you feel.
 
Once she wants you a bit more and can see that you're a different person, it's time to stop playing games and to tell her how you really feel. How else can you get the ball rolling? If it ended badly, she's not going to ask you to pick things up again, so you need to get your act together and open up.
  • Tell her at the right place and time. Pick a time when she's not too busy and you can be alone, ideally at night or in a semi-secluded location.
  • Maintain eye contact when you tell her. No looking around, no checking your phone.
  • No more Mr. Tough Guy. It's time to be open and honest and to share your true feelings.
  • First, acknowledge what went wrong, and apologize for it again if you haven't already. Then, tell her how much you've changed and how much you'd love to give it another try.
  • Say, "I can't believe what an idiot I've been. You were the best thing that ever happened to me and I really screwed it up. Let me make it up to you."
  • Don't sound like you're begging and pleading; instead, make it sound like barely a question at all. Let her know that you're going to try again, and hopefully you'll get the answer you were looking for.

#2# Take her out. 

If she agrees to go out with you, you better do it right this time. You're lucky enough to be getting a second chance, and third chances are hard to come by. Make the most of your time together and make sure to treat her right. Here's what to do:
  • Turn up the romance factor. Bring her flowers and take her to a romantic restaurant. Now, you shouldn't overdo it to the point that she feels uncomfortable. Just add a little bit of the romance that was probably missing before.
  • Compliment her. Let her know she looks nice when you pick her up, and compliment her throughout the date.
  • Let her know how much you've missed her. Find one or two moments during the date when you tell her how glad you are to have her in your life.
  • In the end, be yourself. You can become a better listener, a more attentive person, or just learn to understand her needs, but in the end, you're still you, and you should make sure she likes who you really are. Don't try so hard to show that you've changed that there's nothing left of the old you.

#3# Keep the girl this time.
 
If the date went well, and if there are more dates to follow, you need to make sure the relationship doesn't end for the same reason if you really want to stay with this girl. If she's a keeper, you must remind yourself that you have to continue making her feel special.
  • Remind yourself what happened the last time, and vow not to do it again.
  • Look at it as starting fresh. You don't have to rehash the old relationship, but work on building something completely new and much better.
  • Relax. Just enjoy being with the girl instead of worrying about not screwing up again all the time.
All The Best Guys!

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

5 Signs Your Are With The Wrong Person

When you are dating someone or having a relationship with someone or married to someone, you probably want it to be forever. After all, you love the person.  

The truth is that many couples out there really do not belong together. They have too many differences and there is just not the same spark and love that there might have once been. So, how do you know if you are with the wrong person? 

The following are five of the most common clues.

Sign 1# You Do Not Have Emotional Attachments

Being “into” another person is not the same as a real emotional attachment or investment. Real emotion translates to the long-term, not just the honeymoon phase of a relationship. Being emotionally committed means actually caring about what happens to the other person and being able to forgive one another when you fight and argue. Those who don’t feel real emotion for one another will simply not last for very long.

Sign 2# You Could See Your Life Without Him/Her

If you can imagine your life without the other person in it, then it is very clear. You are with the wrong person. Those who are supposed to be with one another and who are truly in love can’t imagine life without the other. Stop and think about your future. Does it matter if the other person is there or not? If you don’t care, you aren’t with the right partner.

Sign 3# You Don’t Have the Same Values

This one is quite a big problem, and it should be something that a couple talks about long before the dating gets too serious. However, too few people really think about this – lust takes over and a relationship develops even though it will not last. You have to be able to be friends with the person you are with if you hope to have a good relationship. This means that you have to have values that align with one another. You don’t have to agree on everything, but you should have a lot in common.

For example, if you are a meat eater and she’s a vegetarian, just imagine the conflicts that could occur down the road. This is just one simple example. Think about all of the other ways you are different.

Sign 4# Your Activities Do Not Include Him/Her

If you find that you would rather do things with just your friends, or even on your own, rather than including your partner, it could be a sign of trouble. Sure, you need to have time of your own to do the things that you want. But if you never want to do things with your partner, he or she might not be the right person.

 Sign 5# The Sex Stops

While sex isn’t everything, it is an important part of relationships. It’s intimacy that humans needs, and a form of communicating love for one another. When that stops, it is clear that there is some type of problem that you need to address.

Monday, October 26, 2009

The Secret To A Happy Marriage

Guess what’s the secret to a happy marriage? Find a smart woman at least five years younger who has not been hitched before, reveals a new study.
 

Researchers at Bath University have found that couples with the best chance of a happy marriage are those in which a woman with a superior education marries a man who is five or more years older than herself.
 

In their study, the researchers analysed interviews with 1,534 Swiss couples who were either married or in a very serious relationship. Five years later they followed up 1,074 of the couples to see which had separated.
 

From this analysis, the researchers were able to tease out the factors that create a dream marriage - and those that doom a romance to failure.
 

With age, they found that if the wife is five or more years older than her husband, they are more than three times as likely to divorce than if they were the same age. Couples in which the husband is the elder by at least five years are least likely to part.
 

A good education boosts a couple’s chances of staying together, and the future is particularly bright if the wife has the most studying under her belt. Analysis of the data also showed the most stable couples were those who have never divorced. However couples in which one member has been through a break-up in the past are less stable than those in which both members have a history of divorce.
 

According to Lead researcher Dr Emmanuel Fragniere, “It appears men and women choose their mates on the basis of love, physical attraction, similarity of taste, beliefs and attitudes, and shared values.”
 

"However, the longevity of marriages also depends on objective factors. Matching individuals according to a small number of objective criteria such as age, education and cultural origin may help reduce divorce."
 

These findings have been published in the “European Journal of Operational Research”.

Saturday, April 18, 2009

7 Steps to Make a Girl Fall in Love

Love is on everyone's mind. It's an amazing feeling to be in love even though it has its ups and downs. Girls like being wooed and sought after. Generally, it's the males that do the chasing. Making a girl fall in love does not come naturally to all men but one can always pick up the tricks of the trade.
 

Here are seven tips that will make a girl fall in love with you.
 

Tip 1: Send the girl you are eying an unsigned letter, a bunch of flowers or a little gift. A little mystery will cause her to wonder who the sender maybe. Don't overdo it as she may just get fed up.
 

Tip 2: A girl loves being treated with dignity and respect. She likes being complimented every now and then. Girls generally get attracted to decent boys.
 

Tip 3: Be confident and genuine in your approach, what ever is on the inside of you will show on the outside. This will attract the girl you are making advances at.
 

Tip 4: Girls take to guys who are fun loving and sporty. Don't have a sour lime, dull boring attitude or look on your face. That will only shoo her away.
 

Tip 5: Be obliging at all times and offer to go out of your way to do something for the girl you love. She is watching you very carefully, the way you speak, the way you react and your dependability.
 

Tip 6: If you are the romantic type ask her out to dinner in a quiet, romantic setting. Find out what her interests are and get involved in them that will make her feel really special.
 

Tip 7: Be protective of her, no I don't mean dominate her or anything like that. But in your own subtle way let her know that you are looking out for her, this will gain her trust and not only that her love as well.
 

So, all the very best as you set out to charm the girl of your dreams. Love is in the air!

Monday, March 23, 2009

Some Men are Scared of Commitment, Why?
Have you ever noticed that there are some men who get much scared of the big 'C' word: commitment? Such fellows can be found everywhere, for example, in our society, in our neighborhood, at our work place etc. So the big question is why are they so scared of commitment?

For a gender that enjoys new challenges and adventures and laughs in the face of danger, you'd think something simple like the word 'marriage' wouldn't scare them off. But alas it's not that case. Men often get very scared by the idea of committing more to their partner. Often it's fatal to the relationship.
 

Some men get so scared off that they have to leave their partners. And this happens again and again throughout their dating life. Though, don't worry, this isn't the majority of men. The majority of men need simple coaxing and helping through the commitment stage. You can help your man by not putting added pressure on him. Let him know that you do want more commitment, but if he isn't willing to give it then you understand. You can wait and you still love him.
 

To get a person to change you first have to accept them as they are. If people feel accepted then they are more likely to put positive changes into action in their lives.

Friday, January 11, 2008

Are You Too Shy To Meet Your Online Love?

There’s nothing to be scared of because online romances often culminate into lifelong partnerships these days. However, when taking the plunge keep these tips in mind and you won’t go wrong!

Meet when YOU are ready and if you feel inclined enough! You are never obliged to meet anyone no matter how comfortable you get over the net. However, don’t unnecessarily lead somebody on. Why bother with the effort if you just want to tease?

Location-wise: Be wise when it comes to the choice of venue. Don’t allow your date to pick you up at home. What if he turns out to be a stalker? Any public space like a restaurant or a café is a sound option. Don’t forget to inform a close friend about your rendezvous plans and leave your date's name and telephone number with that person.

While traveling a longer distance: If the object of your affection is overseas or from another state and you are flying in or driving from another area, arrange for your own car and a hotel room. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information.

Use your instinct: Read the fine print. Do you feel pressurized? Do you sense undue anger or frustration? Watch out for any alarming aberrations.

Get yourself out of a jam: If you are any way afraid of your date, use your judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior. Your safety is much more important than one person's opinion of you.

The Underlying Concepts:

You could be smart or sloppy. You could ooze sensuality and wit; you could be poetic and sensitive. You could be the proverbial introvert. You could be intelligent. You could be anything and everything under the sun.

You could be severely eligible. And yet you maybe single.

Maybe you haven’t met someone who mentally, intellectually, physically and emotionally (is that to much to ask for?) stimulates you in ages. Maybe you live in a metro. Maybe time is a constraint and the opportunities to socialize and ‘meet’ potential romantic interests are on the wane. And you might be smothered with lots of doubts like –‘Is there something wrong with me? Am I boring? What can I do to improve my romantic prospects? Arranged marriage…yikes!’

Well, banish those thoughts. You share a common predicament with millions across the globe. So what can you do to find a touch of chemistry in this crazy world of today? If conventional methods aren’t helping, then maybe you could resort to more innovative ones; Like the internet, for instance.

Online dating, a by-product of the net craze isn’t just new age madness. It’s a concept that was born due to changing circumstances and fascinating technology. Online dating has created possibilities for this generation that our parents never dreamt of.

While lots of dubious ‘characters’ are lurking about on the web; you'll also find them hanging around at nightclubs, sipping coffee at your regular café, in the local trains and in your office.

Dating is never a risk-free activity, anyways and the same goes for online dating.

If approached the right way, the medium of the internet could actually lead you to whom you are looking for. We bring you some tips that could make your search more fruitful and more fun!

Wednesday, January 2, 2008

How To Avoid Money Tiffs?

Considering that love exists and you do want togetherness with this guy, it makes sense to hold the money devil by its horns and tame it so that it doesn’t come between the two of you. Get a grip right now on the situation by using a bit of humility, common senses, patience and tact. Here’s how…

• Understand that you have chosen to live with and love this guy. Whatever be his financial situation, he is desirable to you and should remain so. After all, it does not take financial positions and situations to take a turn.

• Make your parents understand this as well. Don’t allow them to bring up the money talk and the disparity in your incomes in front of him. This will instill inferiority complex in your man and might make him feel that he is being subjugated to humility. Avoid such discussions with friends also. Besides, it is your personal arena, do not make your income disparity open to public analysis.

• Do not over insist on footing the bill at a restaurant or while on a shopping expedition with your man. If he wishes to pay, let him. And never ever pass comments such as, “Its ok honey let me pay. Anyway I earn much more so I can afford this.” By doing this, you will be trampling all over his self-respect.

• Do not keep drumming in the fact in that you earn more and you are doing better.

• Do not keep discussing his career moves with him with an air of authority just because you are financially more sound. This will make him feel that you are in the driving seat and he is being babied. Most men will detest the feeling.

• Do not make major buying decisions or financial decisions like a picking up a fridge or a home theater etc without his knowledge or his consultation.

• Avoid giving him an overtly expensive gift without his knowledge. He might take this an offense and start comparing his purchasing capacity with yours.

• If you are living in or are married, then it makes sense to have a joint account. Deposit equal amounts in this account and use this money for all joint expenditures. This will take care of most of the strife.

Remember that money can’t buy you love. Also remember that money has the power to break the strongest of bonds. Ensure that you don’t fall pray to its power-play. Relish togetherness!