5 Signs Your Are With The Wrong Person

When you are dating someone or having a relationship with someone or married to someone, you probably want it to be forever. After all, you love the person.  

The truth is that many couples out there really do not belong together. They have too many differences and there is just not the same spark and love that there might have once been. So, how do you know if you are with the wrong person? 

The following are five of the most common clues.

Sign 1# You Do Not Have Emotional Attachments

Being “into” another person is not the same as a real emotional attachment or investment. Real emotion translates to the long-term, not just the honeymoon phase of a relationship. Being emotionally committed means actually caring about what happens to the other person and being able to forgive one another when you fight and argue. Those who don’t feel real emotion for one another will simply not last for very long.

Sign 2# You Could See Your Life Without Him/Her

If you can imagine your life without the other person in it, then it is very clear. You are with the wrong person. Those who are supposed to be with one another and who are truly in love can’t imagine life without the other. Stop and think about your future. Does it matter if the other person is there or not? If you don’t care, you aren’t with the right partner.

Sign 3# You Don’t Have the Same Values

This one is quite a big problem, and it should be something that a couple talks about long before the dating gets too serious. However, too few people really think about this – lust takes over and a relationship develops even though it will not last. You have to be able to be friends with the person you are with if you hope to have a good relationship. This means that you have to have values that align with one another. You don’t have to agree on everything, but you should have a lot in common.

For example, if you are a meat eater and she’s a vegetarian, just imagine the conflicts that could occur down the road. This is just one simple example. Think about all of the other ways you are different.

Sign 4# Your Activities Do Not Include Him/Her

If you find that you would rather do things with just your friends, or even on your own, rather than including your partner, it could be a sign of trouble. Sure, you need to have time of your own to do the things that you want. But if you never want to do things with your partner, he or she might not be the right person.

 Sign 5# The Sex Stops

While sex isn’t everything, it is an important part of relationships. It’s intimacy that humans needs, and a form of communicating love for one another. When that stops, it is clear that there is some type of problem that you need to address.

The Secret To A Happy Marriage

Guess what’s the secret to a happy marriage? Find a smart woman at least five years younger who has not been hitched before, reveals a new study.
 
Researchers at Bath University have found that couples with the best chance of a happy marriage are those in which a woman with a superior education marries a man who is five or more years older than herself.
 
In their study, the researchers analysed interviews with 1,534 Swiss couples who were either married or in a very serious relationship. Five years later they followed up 1,074 of the couples to see which had separated.
 
From this analysis, the researchers were able to tease out the factors that create a dream marriage - and those that doom a romance to failure.
 
With age, they found that if the wife is five or more years older than her husband, they are more than three times as likely to divorce than if they were the same age. Couples in which the husband is the elder by at least five years are least likely to part.
 
A good education boosts a couple’s chances of staying together, and the future is particularly bright if the wife has the most studying under her belt. Analysis of the data also showed the most stable couples were those who have never divorced. However couples in which one member has been through a break-up in the past are less stable than those in which both members have a history of divorce.
 
According to Lead researcher Dr Emmanuel Fragniere, “It appears men and women choose their mates on the basis of love, physical attraction, similarity of taste, beliefs and attitudes, and shared values.”
 
"However, the longevity of marriages also depends on objective factors. Matching individuals according to a small number of objective criteria such as age, education and cultural origin may help reduce divorce."
 
These findings have been published in the “European Journal of Operational Research”.

7 Steps to Make a Girl Fall in Love

Love is on everyone's mind. It's an amazing feeling to be in love even though it has its ups and downs. Girls like being wooed and sought after. Generally, it's the males that do the chasing. Making a girl fall in love does not come naturally to all men but one can always pick up the tricks of the trade.
 
Here are seven tips that will make a girl fall in love with you.
 
Tip 1: Send the girl you are eying an unsigned letter, a bunch of flowers or a little gift. A little mystery will cause her to wonder who the sender maybe. Don't overdo it as she may just get fed up.
 
Tip 2: A girl loves being treated with dignity and respect. She likes being complimented every now and then. Girls generally get attracted to decent boys.
 
Tip 3: Be confident and genuine in your approach, what ever is on the inside of you will show on the outside. This will attract the girl you are making advances at.
 
Tip 4: Girls take to guys who are fun loving and sporty. Don't have a sour lime, dull boring attitude or look on your face. That will only shoo her away.
 
Tip 5: Be obliging at all times and offer to go out of your way to do something for the girl you love. She is watching you very carefully, the way you speak, the way you react and your dependability.
 
Tip 6: If you are the romantic type ask her out to dinner in a quiet, romantic setting. Find out what her interests are and get involved in them that will make her feel really special.
 
Tip 7: Be protective of her, no I don't mean dominate her or anything like that. But in your own subtle way let her know that you are looking out for her, this will gain her trust and not only that her love as well.
 
So, all the very best as you set out to charm the girl of your dreams. Love is in the air!

Some Men are Scared of Commitment, Why?

Have you ever noticed that there are some men who get much scared of the big 'C' word: commitment? Such fellows can be found everywhere, for example, in our society, in our neighborhood, at our work place etc. So the big question is why are they so scared of commitment?

For a gender that enjoys new challenges and adventures and laughs in the face of danger, you'd think something simple like the word 'marriage' wouldn't scare them off. But alas it's not that case. Men often get very scared by the idea of committing more to their partner. Often it's fatal to the relationship.
 
Some men get so scared off that they have to leave their partners. And this happens again and again throughout their dating life. Though, don't worry, this isn't the majority of men. The majority of men need simple coaxing and helping through the commitment stage. You can help your man by not putting added pressure on him. Let him know that you do want more commitment, but if he isn't willing to give it then you understand. You can wait and you still love him.
 
To get a person to change you first have to accept them as they are. If people feel accepted then they are more likely to put positive changes into action in their lives.

Are You Too Shy To Meet Your Online Love?

There’s nothing to be scared of because online romances often culminate into lifelong partnerships these days. However, when taking the plunge keep these tips in mind and you won’t go wrong!

Meet when YOU are ready and if you feel inclined enough! You are never obliged to meet anyone no matter how comfortable you get over the net. However, don’t unnecessarily lead somebody on. Why bother with the effort if you just want to tease?

Location-wise: Be wise when it comes to the choice of venue. Don’t allow your date to pick you up at home. What if he turns out to be a stalker? Any public space like a restaurant or a café is a sound option. Don’t forget to inform a close friend about your rendezvous plans and leave your date's name and telephone number with that person.

While traveling a longer distance: If the object of your affection is overseas or from another state and you are flying in or driving from another area, arrange for your own car and a hotel room. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information.

Use your instinct: Read the fine print. Do you feel pressurized? Do you sense undue anger or frustration? Watch out for any alarming aberrations.

Get yourself out of a jam: If you are any way afraid of your date, use your judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior. Your safety is much more important than one person's opinion of you.

The Underlying Concepts:

You could be smart or sloppy. You could ooze sensuality and wit; you could be poetic and sensitive. You could be the proverbial introvert. You could be intelligent. You could be anything and everything under the sun.

You could be severely eligible. And yet you maybe single.

Maybe you haven’t met someone who mentally, intellectually, physically and emotionally (is that to much to ask for?) stimulates you in ages. Maybe you live in a metro. Maybe time is a constraint and the opportunities to socialize and ‘meet’ potential romantic interests are on the wane. And you might be smothered with lots of doubts like –‘Is there something wrong with me? Am I boring? What can I do to improve my romantic prospects? Arranged marriage…yikes!’

Well, banish those thoughts. You share a common predicament with millions across the globe. So what can you do to find a touch of chemistry in this crazy world of today? If conventional methods aren’t helping, then maybe you could resort to more innovative ones; Like the internet, for instance.

Online dating, a by-product of the net craze isn’t just new age madness. It’s a concept that was born due to changing circumstances and fascinating technology. Online dating has created possibilities for this generation that our parents never dreamt of.

While lots of dubious ‘characters’ are lurking about on the web; you'll also find them hanging around at nightclubs, sipping coffee at your regular café, in the local trains and in your office.

Dating is never a risk-free activity, anyways and the same goes for online dating.

If approached the right way, the medium of the internet could actually lead you to whom you are looking for. We bring you some tips that could make your search more fruitful and more fun!

How To Avoid Money Tiffs?

Considering that love exists and you do want togetherness with this guy, it makes sense to hold the money devil by its horns and tame it so that it doesn’t come between the two of you. Get a grip right now on the situation by using a bit of humility, common senses, patience and tact. Here’s how…

• Understand that you have chosen to live with and love this guy. Whatever be his financial situation, he is desirable to you and should remain so. After all, it does not take financial positions and situations to take a turn.

• Make your parents understand this as well. Don’t allow them to bring up the money talk and the disparity in your incomes in front of him. This will instill inferiority complex in your man and might make him feel that he is being subjugated to humility. Avoid such discussions with friends also. Besides, it is your personal arena, do not make your income disparity open to public analysis.

• Do not over insist on footing the bill at a restaurant or while on a shopping expedition with your man. If he wishes to pay, let him. And never ever pass comments such as, “Its ok honey let me pay. Anyway I earn much more so I can afford this.” By doing this, you will be trampling all over his self-respect.

• Do not keep drumming in the fact in that you earn more and you are doing better.

• Do not keep discussing his career moves with him with an air of authority just because you are financially more sound. This will make him feel that you are in the driving seat and he is being babied. Most men will detest the feeling.

• Do not make major buying decisions or financial decisions like a picking up a fridge or a home theater etc without his knowledge or his consultation.

• Avoid giving him an overtly expensive gift without his knowledge. He might take this an offense and start comparing his purchasing capacity with yours.

• If you are living in or are married, then it makes sense to have a joint account. Deposit equal amounts in this account and use this money for all joint expenditures. This will take care of most of the strife.

Remember that money can’t buy you love. Also remember that money has the power to break the strongest of bonds. Ensure that you don’t fall pray to its power-play. Relish togetherness!

Are You Single For Too Long?

In this world full of stress and strife, we all desire a caring partner who dotes on us. However, some women find their ‘dream guy’ more easily than others. Call it their charm, the magic of their magnetic personality or destiny, they are simply adept at attracting men by the dozens. Then there are some who don’t manage to pull on their date to even a second one. But there may be some reasons behind your failing dates. Maybe you have forgotten how to play the dating game because you have been single for far too long. But how do you figure that you have maintained the single status for longer than you should have. Here are seven signs:

#1#. You're awkward around men

A valid reason for the lack of a guy in your life is your clumsy and awkward behaviour around them. You don’t know what to talk to them about.

You don’t know how to react when they give you a compliment. When a guy makes a subtle pass, you either get miffed like a child instead of getting flattered or react too excitedly, as a result turning him off completely. When you actually string together a few dates with a guy, you blow it all up by doing something weird like fighting over the bill with him and telling him that hey I know you can take me out but I have an ego too.

#2#. Loneliness is making you desperate

On those lonely nights, you actually log on to chat rooms for singles and chat to strangers for hours online about estranged love and life and much more. You have actually registered yourself on matrimony sites looking for a guy ‘who will provide you with love and care’. You spend a quarter of your day looking though profiles on line for a ‘suitable’ guy. Really, if you indulge in any of this, you have been out of sorts for sure.

#3#. You think that every guy you meet is making a pass at you

Women in relationship get attention from their men. Women, who date, get attention from their dates. But women who hardly even meet men get no attention from anywhere. This lack of attention can do things to their head. When you start thinking that every random guy who looks at you, speaks to you or smiles at you is making a pass at you and desires you immensely then you really have been single for too long.

#4#. Valentine’s day rolls by and no guy asks you out

You know you have been single for more that you should have been, when guys don’t ask you out simply because they have never seen you going out with a guy. They are left thinking that you never go on dates so why should they spend their energy asking you out.

#5#. You have started looking like Ethel from Archie Comics

Presence of a guy in a woman’s life keeps her conscious about her appearance and she stays busy looking after herself. Though a guy is never the only reason for which she dresses up but an absence of a guy can surely make a woman disinterested when it comes to dolling herself up. If your hair haven’t been pruned for months and your skin is full of blemishes, your hands are unkempt and you have been putting on weight insanely then you know that you are getting where you shouldn’t.

#6#. Most of your friends are always trying to hook you up with someone

When every third day from someone or the other you hear things like, “Hey I am meeting this really interesting friend of mine who also happens to be single, why don’t you join us” then you know that people have seen you single for far too long.

#7#. Stop hanging out with only girls

Because you don't hang around with guys at all, people might start thinking that you aren’t straight. If guys think that you swing the other way, however attractive you may be, they will never ask you out. But don’t blame people. If you spend all your time chilling out with your girl friends and never step out with a guy then what are they to think? If this isn’t a sign of your long retained single status, then what is?

If you relate to three or more of these signs then the label of being single has been on you sleeve for rather long and you need to dump it SOON. Read these signs for what they are and get back into the dating game. After all, everyone needs to experience that lovely thing called love.

Men Love The Mysterious Girl

A woman is known for her mysterious side. A secret which every man dreams to uncover. It is said that you “never understand a woman” and this is the only thing which pulls a man towards her. Her secrets, her unpredictable nature, her sobs which often bursts into a series of laughter is always a puzzle for the man who aspires to solve it one day. Let us see how you can use this mysterious side of yours into a treasure hunt for your man, laying a trail which can definitely unlock the secrets of your heart. It’s your key to getting your partner more interested in you.

@1# Creating an impression

What could be a better colour for our ‘secret lady’ than a dress in black. Apply a dash of mascara with a silver lining or smoky grey eye shadow leaving behind a dusky effect for your eyes to narrate a tale which was never told to him.

Wear a dress which is not so revealing yet it conceals the contours of your body in a perfect manner that sets off a trail of imagination.

@2# Talking secrets

Speak to him about the innocent girl in you who believes in a fairy and Prince Charming riding a horse. Also do not forget to mention about the daring and passionate side of yours which has the power of steel and can bend the universe with your impregnable confidence. Give him a taste of your indecisive nature that does not know what to shop at times and the focus that you have on your goals which does not waver and has the stillness of an ice-berg. Yes, have him a bit confused.

@3# Where to go?

If you really want to intrigue him, take him to a place which has a theme of the unknown. Where else can you floor him with your deadly secrets?

@4# The way to man’s heart

Last but not the least serve him with a home made dessert prepared by you as we all know that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. This way he will be all set to explore your hidden treasures better.

The Chemistry Behind Love

Love is as much a hormonal issue as is an emotional one. Ever wondered why you blush and go weak-kneed while meeting your special other? Why does the person appear "sexy" and attractive after a few interactions? As much as it is a mind game, the body and hormones too play a major role in deciding our love lives. Here is how…

• The weak-kneed reaction is triggered by an overdose of a chemical called phenylethylamine (PEA). Popularly known as the “love molecule” this one is found in the brain and has high levels of nitrogen. Chocolates are also known to trigger off PEA secretion…

• The weak-kneed reaction is usually followed by lust which is triggered by “testosterone” -the male hormone. Body’s secretion of hormone shoots up when the mind is “in love”.

• Sweaty palms are a result of increased blood pressure or adrenaline rush. This leads to fastened heart rate, heavy breathing and blushing. An excess intake of oxygen is the reason behind the “giddy”, “light headed” feeling.

• Adrenaline and Serotonin (low levels) lead to attraction.

• PEA also releases dopamine, “a feel good” neuro-transmitter that controls emotional responses and our ability to react to stimulus (pleasure and pain).

• This neuro-transmitter is responsible for crystallizing lust into attraction, leading to the birth of a relationship.

• Dopamine also produces oxytocin, the “cuddle chemical”.

So the next time your heart goes racing, you just blame the hormones at work…

How To Reduce Online Dating Dangers

Are you still seeking your soul mate?
 
Or are you just looking for friends with the same interests?
 
Well, online dating is definitely a great way to widen your circle of friends. It is really fun to meet many interesting people and sometimes addictive for many people. Some have even met their soul mate by meeting their perfect lifetime match through an online dating portal! It is just amazing the convenience and the benefits that online dating brings to the busy people.
 
If you are new to online dating, there maybe risks which you may put yourself in even without you knowing. Good thing you are reading this! Here are some dangers of online dating that you might face and and if you face sometime you can do these to reduce such risks:
 
#1# The very first danger of online dating is when you become a scam victim. Not everyone in the online dating scene is a good guy or girl. Many scam artists masked their real identity in order to cheat someone not only of their money but emotions, feelings as well. Sad but true - many women "catch" men and ask them for money by giving empty promises. Then after the money comes to them, they disappear. There are even cases when men sexually assault the women when meet up for a date after they "meet" on an online dating site.
 
So, do not be over-credulous. The person who you are communicating with can write anything in his or her profile and he or she may not be whoever they tell you. In fact, you cannot be completely sure if it is a she or a he. In case you decide to meet your dating partner - do some background checks. Moreover, to be safe, your first date should be during daytime in a busy public place. Better still, get a friend to come along.
 
#2# Another possible danger of online dating is to give out your real address and personal information. Well, the person who is asking for your address might seem completely normal and harmless, you may even "know" him online for quite time. In any case, you should never give your home or work address as you don't really know who you are dealing with.
 
Thus, remember - never give out your personal information. No real phone number or address. Some people do not even share their real name (as you can find the address and even the phone number using it), but use nicknames instead. If things get serious and if enough time has passed you may consider sharing such information with your dating partner.
 
#3# Another danger of online dating is to get lots of unsolicited email messages. There will be many people asking for your email address in order to continue your relationship off the online dating site and only in a few hours, you will discover that you have become a spammer victim with your email box flooded with spams.
 
So, if you can stick by those general guidelines, online dating can be a great and safe experience. When in doubt, do not hesittate to consult your friends or families on what to do. Most importantly, never meet someone you met online in person alone without informing anyone else.
 
Happy Dating!!
 
One final word : trust your gut feeling and never take chances. If your feel a person is right and genuine go ahead,you might have found the love of your life. However, it is better to be very careful and do not rush things. Take one-step at a time and think over it many times before you actually do it.