Flirting, being friends or very good friends and going out on a special date with a girl; all are very different situations from proposing a girl.
Men who are going to propose an Indian girl should do this with utmost care. It hurts very much to get denial after proposing a girl. When it comes to proposing an Indian girl, men need to take several factors into account.
Here are some key pointers which can be helpful to know the ways to propose an Indian girl.
@1# Duration of Your Relationship.
If you are friends with an Indian girl for just 1 or 2 weeks, do not propose her. Give time to your relationship so that it can grow. When a man, who knows a girl for a very short period of time; proposes her; the girl gets to know that the person is just fooling around. However, if you know a girl very well for many months then proposing seems acceptable.
@2# The Quality of Your Relationship.
If you know a girl for a year but have spent only a few lonely moments with her then you should not propose her. Before proposing a girl, think yourself that how it will appear to propose a girl whom you just don’t know very well. On the other hand, if you share a very enjoyable relationship with a girl then it will not appear abnormal to propose on your part. You need to understand that there should be strong reasons for your proposal. Only then the girl would trust you. It is very difficult for an Indian girl to understand that a man who does not know her well really has honest feeling for her.
@3# Timing.
Choose a day when you are on a date with your girl. Observe the mood of the girl whom you are going to propose. If the girl is in a bad mood then don’t propose her. You will suffer without any reason just because of wrong timing. Also, keep on giving hints about your proposal before really proposing a girl. This helps in creating a good platform before you really propose her.
@4# The Style For Proposal.
This is the most important part of proposing an Indian girl. Men should understand that there is no rigid style of proposing a girl. Every girl wishes to get proposed in a unique manner. Keep this in mind and propose her in your own unique style. Be creative and avoid copying someone else. Propose her in such a manner that she feels like a princess or the most beautiful woman in the whole universe. Assure her that you will always take care of her and do anything for her happiness. Avoid proposing in a direct manner. It sounds boring and Indian girls would not like it. If they ask for some time to give response then give it to her. Remember that patience always pays.
@5# Getting Prepared.
Doing Your Homework could be the Difference Maker. So, you are sure about getting your timing right and you have decided upon the style of proposing your Indian girlfriend. However, an important question remains to be asked ‘have you done your homework?’
Yes, this might sound a bit strange, but when proposing to a girl, it is vital that you come across as somebody who is seriously interested in her. This means having observed her closely and taking the initiative to find out more about her. If she is your colleague at the office, digging information about her likes and dislikes isn't that difficult. If she is within your extended circle of friends, the task becomes even easier. When you propose to her, it should seem that you know about her preferences and her personality type.
Is she the upfront type who has only dated bold, macho guys in the past? If yes, your style of proposing would be better-off being quick and blunt about it.
If she is the sporty types, it would be better if you propose going out on a small adventure trip as a part of the proposal or initiate the conversation with how you have always wanted to try rock climbing.
This combination of asking her out and mentioning something that she really likes will make her think that yes, you do understand her and there is something common to build upon.
If she is the shy type, ensure that it doesn’t seem like you are hitting upon her. Before you actually propose, do some homework. Identify her closest friends. Send her some subtle reminders and teasers about the fact that you really like her. In this manner, you would have taken out the sting of shock or awe at the time of actually proposing to her. Think of this as establishing a reasonable base when proposing an Indian girl.
@6# Your Choice of Words.
Even after the best of preparations, if you end up saying the wrong things at moment of proposing, you are bound to make things difficult for yourself. Rather than leaving it all to spontaneity, it is better to being a bit prepared about how you are going to put forth your proposal. The fact is that unless she is a total stranger to you, you don’t need to explain yourself to her.
All you need to do is directly ask her out without using the words ‘date’. There is nothing wrong with using this word but it may give things a rather typical perception.
You are better off proposing in a manner that is both direct and a bit subtle. Your lines should include phrases like ‘I have been observing you for a long time’ or ‘I have a gut feeling that you wouldn’t mind going out with me’. Don’t bombard her with flowers or gifts before actually saying something. That just seems like a lame attempt to melt her a bit before hitting her with proposal.
Being a bit apprehensive, anxious or even stammering a bit is not an issue as you say it. Don’t try to act too cool or someone you are not. Don’t behave like some overconfident schmuck who couldn’t care less.
@7# Your Body Language Should Be Confident.
When you propose to a girl or a lady from any part of the world for that matter, your body language makes a huge difference. If you are naturally confident, most issues are resolved and you don’t need much help.
If you are a bit apprehensive or unsure about her reaction, ensure you follow some basics. This includes, looking her in the eye when you propose. You should be facing her, without your hands in your pockets or waving around too much in the air. If you seem a bit vulnerable or emotional, it works towards your favor as it lends an emotional depth to your actions.
If you tend to get tense when approaching such situations, just take some time to do some last minute preparations to keep yourself calm. This can include deep breathing and doing some neck rotations.
How To Tackle The Post Proposal Period?
Let us assume the positive outcome of your proposal. Even then, it is not necessary that she out rightly says, yes. Most Indian women still carry a bit of coyness that makes them so unique. Her approval might be in the form of blinking her eyes and smiling. If she is the waiting type or wants to play the hard-to-get sort of games, she might tell you to wait for her phone call. The ideal way to handle the outcome of your proposal is to give her time and not force the issue.
Don’t seek immediate answers. Don’t pressurize her into being very clear about her response. You need to understand that she might need a few moments to recollect herself. Yes, being spontaneous about the entire thing would be ideal but it isn't bound to happen with every girl.
So, allow her the liberty to handle things the way she wants. Don’t call her and ask for her impending answer. After having proposed to her, take a back step and allow fate to take its own course.
Don’t approach the proposal with any fixed notions in your head, it is better to be prepared for the worst-case scenario and hope for her immediate acceptance.
